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But I decided that I was going to give it a shot- push past my tendencies and fears- because I would really like to make some new friends. So I’m doing the following: 1) Reading relevant material online- like tips and stuff 2) Reaching out to old friends- I find this less stressful than reaching out to a new person (I’m meeting an old friend for coffee this weekend) 3) Saying hello to colleagues when I come in to work (instead of shuffling past) 4. Practicing my conversation skills with my family. 5) Attending events and starting a conversation with someone (future challenge). My ‘steps’ may seem overwhelming but you can always try those relevant to you. Also I’m being very deliberate about forming new relationships which means PUSHING PAST my TENDENCIES and FEARS- focusing on the present- not dwelling on the past and trying to be less anxious about future outcomes.
If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your lifestyle like? Are you studying etc?Sorry for the extra long post.
NaimaParticipantHi Zoe,
First, I’m glad that you’re in a good place now…with regard to your struggle with depression.
As for struggling to connect…
One of my goals (1of3) for this year and beyond really, is to establish new and MEANINGFUL relationships, to re-establish past relationships and to strengthen existing ones. Three years ago I moved to a different city to pursue my undergrad. I may as well have fallen off the face of the earth because I lost connection with many(most) of my friends and acquaintances and failed to make many- meaningful- connections with people on campus- I’m fairly reserved and introverted for one- my schedule was also pretty crazy (particularly the last two years) and therefore I didn’t have the time to get involved in many campus activities- which is ideally a good place to meet people. So today I find myself back in my city, new job, and countable friends- two people that talk and meet on the regular- minus my family. So I too feel the need to connect and reconnect with people. I share some of your struggles- like the tendency yourself- I’m an introvert, awkward social situations- approaching people, starting conversations- what do I say? what will they think? what if I’m not interesting enough? etc. -
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