It wasnt until my daughters were growing up that I realised I had been brought up by a dysfunctional mother.I am an only child, so as a child I had no base line on which to know right from wrong. My awakening has been well into adulthood and through loving my children unconditionally and not owning them but treating them with respect and individuality and support for their own choices that my mothers nasty tongue and manipulation was cruel. It has affected me greatly in adult relationships I now realise. I am reflecting and researching to aid my recovery and develop into a more healthy person.The challenge has begun.