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the problem is- she doesnt realise that there exsists something like emotional intelligence and empathy. she goes wherever and whenever like a truck destroying making drama and then she calms down andpeople forgive her for mistakes because she is generally nice.
but her intentions are not material , they are emotional.
she creates bonds with people especially with men that they think she cares of them and she is interested. then she cuts off the contacts with them and make them chase her . she choose her a boyfriend and the game begin.
i am the witness of her two relationships like that. she needs to have a man and the circle of guards.
AND those guards are dependable on her. because she emotionally manipulates them as she would let/ or doesnt let them.
of course she ‘lets’ them have someone SHE KNOWS and immidiatel she becomes that person/ a new girl best friend. and she uses her emotions. like a vampire because she wants to get to know her. she wants to know what she does and etc.
and when she stops using her and sucking her emotions she starts to create her new hobby ( the same as this girl) and everyone prays her. and everyone thinks that SHE is the inventor that SHE is the ONE.
and this girl goes to the shadow.
but time passes by emotions calm down. and she says – what are you talking about. nothing happened.
Hello,
it happened around november 2016.
yes it was the girl that i was referring to in my 2015 posts. the one that was too interested and too curious.
i think that in 2015 i was a bit different person.
i thought that being nice and kind in a home environment means something bad.
i wanted to escape to the world full of young people. i felt like in a cage because i was still living with my paretns as well as studying the same thing . for me it was forever and the neverending cycle.
but from the perspective now i see that its okey. parents need to be kind and nice.
of course every stage of your life and every generation needs to be differentiate. maybe i was too dependable before. and too immature.
but i hated that this girl wanted to say that my parents are too protective. i remember even in high school when we were talking – she was always having problems with parents. she didnt have a family. they divorced and then her dad died. and instead of getting help from friends – me, andother people. she decided to party and take drugs. and she became the queen bee because of the attention that she didnt get in her childhood.
everytime i was giving her a help hand she didnt want she preferred to get drunk and party only with men.
i understand. usually women want to be in the centre of men’s attention 🙂 its natural
but she didnt let other girl be on the same level in groups.
it was her who introduced me to the company that i met up this man.
but it was not my fault that we were attracted to each other.
she lives in a limbo, in a world that she CAN. because she wasnt given the attention and good childhood.
but it doesnt meen she NEEDS to destroy other people’s lifes.
i will never forget and forgive.
because it was always me , in high school and later- like her shadow. always her the 1st and me the 2nd. always when she had relationships i was always the one to tell her advice, good friend.
but when i wanted to set up sth for myself like a little relationship , she realised. 🙂 because she knew me. she knew my steps. so she realised i was into someone from her company. some of her guards. knights that only she can use, one to party, one to spend time, one to go to the cinema. 😉
i hope she will never be happy . because she uses people. she is very egoistical because she fears the abandonement like she experienced in childchood. but i dont want her problems to influence my life- especially when she has always pushed away the help i was offering ( with friends, or psychologist).
i was the only one who remained so long at her side. people were telling me even in 2010 – she is toxic, she uses people. i didnt listen.
in october when we met she was scared of me. she plays nice, has a nice face but inside she is a b***tch.
but what goes around comes around. i hope she will get her karma.
think she is getting it
yes i think you are right.
now i just do not think of her, we havent met since october 2016. sometimes i see she is active on facebook, spamming and commenting everyone. but its ok. i let her be.
these two years tought me a lot. especially regading my confidence and my life. that was ok.
i learnt that people especially my age have 2 sides. i do not know why but here in my country among every one of the group, people pretend and have masks. abroad my friends didnt have masks.have been real.
here i dont know what happens, a lot of my friends is fake. even they are intelligent, graduates. like they want to prove something or i dont know.
and being real,being vournelable but aware of life, and things that happen around is a sign of being weak not strong.
people are afraid to show emotions. and they hide it thats why a lot of conflicts occur.
usually people like me because i show emotions and i am strong and even when i was younger i used to tell in a nice way what i wanted. maybe as we discussed before i was not as assertive nor talkative and i couldnt express my emotions bravely.
but that is weird because since the beginning of my studies i was involved to groups with Queens Bee. and i was always the ‘rival’ of them. and because people knew those girls better they usually relied on them/ their opinion.
i didnt understand the hierarchy because really, still i dont need to be dependable, i can act how i want i can invite whom i want,i can talk to whom i want. there is no hierarchy.
and in those groups people were gossiping about other, outside friends that added someone on facebook ( what did it mean, why did she do it, is she in love with him). my mind doesnt need to be filled with trash like that.
that is why i think only a few people liked me because i always had my path, my way of doing things, expressing myself.
i dont like drama. i just cant see myself screaming at my friend and throwing things at her. its not about me being weak and not being able to express emotions. its maybe gentle behaviour like a normal person would do.
i see that before 30 . in the age gap 27-31 ( 28-30) people mature. i have felt more matured than my friends before. because i didnt make drama i was doing my thing. but i realised that drama people calm down before the age of 30.
and everyone forgive them the drama. i usually do not forgive the drama. i can be nice and talk but i cant forgive. because its the way they made me feel. and i was away hidden in a corner because i felt bad and they were having romantic dinners. but when you ask them they wouldnt know what was going on with me because they didnt have the emotional intelligence to guess or to be empathetic even to one of closest friends.
i know that everything will be okey with me. situations like that occured twice more after this one. but it was about work not a man. it was in 2016 and in 2017 when abroad. i was stronger. people wanted to cheat on me somehow because i was nice and normal at my workplace. but i was stronger than they thought.
i know everything will be fine but i usually do not come back to queen bees that made me feel that way. when i cut contact with her she cried and beg me to stay but i had a satisfaction to turn my back ( like in movies!! ) hahah and go my way.
and i will not have karma. because i can feel and i am empathetic.
Yes it was helpful 🙂
Anyway those people have been toxic. I mean this woman the most toxic person.
This man is not even her friend anymore. Maybe he is but only a friend. SHe is an attention seeker, always on facebook, instagram, other social media that allows others to see her life. and she publishes it in purpose not to lose the attention.
As someone said before – that people will give her a side-eye someday- i think that a lot of them have already done it 🙂
that is why she can not be an individual unit , experienced by herself but only with other people. she is dependent on others.
since 2015 i have learnt that to be able to share my life, happiness or any relation with other person i need to be full , i need to be calm and whole, unity. Without that it could be toxic, because any of us, me or the other person cant give only take.
Its important to give as well. I also understand it better now. Maybe before i was too immature, too proud full of myself, but now i know, i guess i learnt my lesson. It was good 2,5 years.
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