Hi, I can say there is no rush, once you do have kids, I have three, one was an unplanned new baby, life gets quite busy and you don’t remember what you did with your life before. The right person can come at any time, sometimes its the wrong time. If you are mindful and relaxed then you will be ready. I missed out in the past due to my anxiety levels.

Until then just enjoy the life you have and that time you’ve been given. I’m a retained firefighter and have seen so many people killed on their way to work or coming home from somewhere – and it really makes me aware that our time is so limited. Hope that is useful.

Hi I am 43 and have been felt v negative about almost everything for a while. Not sure if was the age, feeling tired or stresses of work and family, or combination of all. Seems like sometimes that all the positivity of being young has gone. Problem with that thinking is it’s a downward spiral and very hard to break out from. I also had a long break from exercise, the more cheesed off you feel the less you feel like running, cycling etc.

The way I got out was to read a really good book on mindfullness and which led to being much less judgemental – its way too easy to get hung up when things aren’t the way we would like them to be and for me that got much worse as I got older. I also forced myself to get out running, at night in the rain, whatever, and afterwards I felt great !