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  • in reply to: Relationship Struggles / To Move or Not for Love #164426
    Jen
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    Hi Eliana,

    Thank you so much for commenting! I really appreciate it.

    in reply to: Relationship Struggles / To Move or Not for Love #164370
    Jen
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank you very much for reply. I really appreciate your input. I understand your reasoning and you are probably right, if it were a good friend of mine I would likely say the same – to take the job, but it’s harder said than done when it involves being away from someone you love. Although he may be discontented with Virginia, at this point he has no choice as he is in the military, so will have to make it work. But I agree, making sacrifices that are damaging to me or to my career would not be dong any favors to our relationship.

    in reply to: Dual Career Couples / Moving / Tough Decisions #142181
    Jen
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    Hi Anita,

    Ha! Good question. I think I will try to to make it work in the city that he is assigned to, luckily they are most all metropolitan cities where jobs a plentiful, and I think I will give it 6 months and if I can’t find the job I’m looking for I will have to re-assess and maybe do something else.

    in reply to: Dual Career Couples / Moving / Tough Decisions #142097
    Jen
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank you for your input. Unfortunately I can’t extend the lease, and would prefer not to move to a different spot in the city, to only move again in a month or two. But that is a good point and idea, to have some more time to ease into the transition. And you’re totally right, having a good job isn’t everything, in fact I feel like I place deep value in all of my relationships, but at the same time I want to be successful and feel proud of what I do, and not have to sacrifice that. This is a real test for our relationship, and though I certainly want to get closer to my partner, it’s very difficult to see how this Coast Guard situation benefits me in any way.

     

    Inky,

    Thank you so much for your thoughts. I know this is common, doesn’t make it any easier though. You are right also that breaking into advertising is very difficult and competitive, which is why I feel that both myself and my partner at pivotal moments in our careers, where we’re just going to do it or not. You also have a good point that all I really need is a computer, I’m not necessarily opposed to freelancing but I need more agency experience before I can say I’m really experienced in my field. I’ll definitely check out the support network.

     

    I really appreciate your thoughts! Thank you both for being awesome people!

     

    Hugs,

     

    in reply to: Personality Changes #122333
    Jen
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    Hi Anita,

    My father certainly doesn’t agree with a lot of the decisions I’ve made, but I think the uncertainty is coming from myself and my own doubts. I have no regrets, but I feel that maybe I do question some of the choices I’ve made and agree that it has had an effect on my confidence and trust in myself.

    in reply to: Personality Changes #122311
    Jen
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    Dear Anita and Squig,

    Thank you both for responding! And Anita, to my last post as well. I appreciate you listening and your input.

    Anita, there certainly is uncertainty (pun intended), and I think it’s a combination of doubting past decisions, and uncertainty about the future. I am unsure of where I will be living in the next year, a move is coming, I am unsure of past relationship decisions I have made and moves I have made. I know it’s all a process, but it feels like there’s a few decisions I’ve made that I’m not quite sure were the right ones, but then I guess we can only look to present and future and take it from there. These probably are having an effect on my personality changes.

    And Squig, thanks so much for sharing. I can relate to a lot of what you said about your past in moving and relationships etc, and also the inner critic. I think in this case concerning being more reserved I am more observing and wondering where it’s coming from, but my inner critic is very active, I criticize myself often, and often do not feel “good enough”. I also have not been taking proper care of myself physically, and that is something I need to work on. Maybe if I can do a better job at that I’ll start to come out of my shell again.

    Thank you both so much! Hugs.

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    in reply to: Can't Pick a Career Path #119154
    Jen
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    Hi Pallasathena, thanks so much for commenting. I appreciate it. I have considered UX design actually, and am currently in school for Digital Design. I do enjoy graphic design very much, but am not quite so passionate or enthusiastic about technology per se, so not sure if UX is the discipline for me. But I am quite interested, thanks so much for your thoughts.

    in reply to: Can't Pick a Career Path #113093
    Jen
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    Thank you all so much for your input! You all are so insightful. I will definitely consider all of these points.

    in reply to: Doubt / Uncertainty in Relationships #111160
    Jen
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    Hi Anita, thank you so much for your input.

    I am restless. I do, and have for some time feel the urge to keep moving. On the one hand, one of my goals is to adventure and explore the world as much as I can – but at the same time, I should be able to appreciate where I am in the current moment, and I don’t seem to be able to. To this day, I don’t feel that I had a rational reason for leaving my ex-boyfriend, other than needing to explore and have my own time, which probably was that restlessness you are talking about. I also do have very high foresight, I visualize and contemplate any and all possibilities, that “grass is greener” idea, and it probably makes this restlessness much worse.

    Can you offer any words on how to understand it / move it through? I want to be able to appreciate my current situation. I appreciate your time and your words so much. Thank you.

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