I am the other woman in a similar situation.
It didn’t work with my ex bf but we clicked on a different level – communicated on a daily basis, shared, helped and supported each other. We have both recently moved to a new country and found in each other the close people, relatives, friends we have left back. We are both very sociable and made our social circles quickly, but still this was the oldest friendship in the new country for me. We went for walks as well once every 3-4 months :). He have both been very supportive with our romantic relationships. There was no physical or romantic connection anymore.
He recently got in a relationship with a woman while she was still married to another man and one month into the affair she left her husband and moved in with her kids to my friend’s place.
Initially when he asked for my opinion, I openly told him that I don’t think what they are doing is moral and that such relationship will hurt him.
We became distant, did not communicate at all until 3 months later, when I followed up about a business issue I have helped him with in an email and he replied to tell me that the gf has problems with me and, to save himself the drama, he will be seizing any public contact with me, but we can still talk on the phone and, eventually, go for walks. Again, during all that time we have not spoken, texted or had any contact, moreover initiated by me. I am a person of very high integrity and find unfaithfulness and even flirting highly unethical and unfair. I just asked him who else did not pass her approval to be on his friend’s list. As expected, only women got the boot 🙂
Now I feel sad and hurt. Although, I shouldn’t be as this is something outside me. She is insecure and does not trust him. He is not worth the trust apparently. I should be glad to have had the chance to see the true him but it hurts.
What I wanted to tell the lady who started the thread is that trust is the foundation of any relationship and by trying to control your man’s friendship you are questioning his integrity, ruining the trust between you and also hurting his friend. Which is bad karma. Give him the space and, if he is the right man, he will be yours.
Good luck,