Hello dear,

You may want to consider why you are involved with someone who is depressed and bipolar. You deserve better, this is mental illness and it will never really be a healthy relationship. There are other people who are more worthy of your time and energy. Please think about what kind of person you want to be with. Start to look at your own desires…what is your ideal man? If you become clear what you want, you can then see that he isn’t meeting your expectations. Not the other way around. Empower yourself.

You don’t have to spend time waiting for him to get it together. You do have more capacity to love yourself and to explore your own desire for a happy life.

Depression is serious and often people don’t want to come out of it, they like the attention they get from being sick.

Hope this helps.

Monica
resurrectedmind.com

Hi. Thanks for your candid story. As someone who struggled with finding what I wanted to do with my life, I just want to honor your feelings of fear and trepidation. In spite of this fear, you do have a purpose and your life has meaning. But it is the purpose you give it. So, this is where the rubber meets the road. I found that going deep within myself and asking “what do I want?”, and letting the answer come, helped every time.

It might astound you what the answer is, but you have the ability to always go inside and ask yourself this question. And if you don’t know, just admit that. There can be many answers. But one will ring true.

Just remember, you aren’t alone in all this. I needed community to help me see what that feeling isolated is a big problem in itself. You will never feel happy if you are disconnected from people. So, finding a group to talk with, opening up to a new way of looking at the world, would be great. Where? Again, go within. What are your interests? Try Meetups.

You have the ability to make this change. And the courage to find it within yourself.

Hope this helps.

Monica
resurrectedmind.com