Thank you both for your replies, I have really thought about it and decided that you are right Big Blue, the compassionate thing is to stop communication. I have expressed this now and hope that we can both move forward. True friendship wouldn’t cause me to ask such questions and I know that being friends would only prevent him from moving on in the long run. Remaining friends after a break up is basically a resistance to letting go, and we all know how important that is! Thank you again for your replies.