FIrstly, I’m really humbled that people here have taken the time to offer a total stranger advice and support. I am really struggling with this, and your help is greatly appreciated.
Al – thank you, I have written a pros and cons list but think I need to re-visit it and look properly – my ‘what ifs’ and emotions and anxiety always take over and I find it hard to look at it objectively, as you say ‘out of my mind and into reality’ – that is exactly what I need to do!
Star – I recently tried mediating as you suggested, I’ve never really tried it properly in the past. I think it is going to be something that really helps me in the next part of my life so thank you.
Mark – I like the idea of practising decision making as a skill, I’ve never thought of it that way and its very useful. It has also been helpful to remember to take it one step at a time, I tend to project all the ‘what ifs’ well into the future, and usually from a point of view of what could go wrong.
Sandy – its so nice to hear from someone who knows what I’m going through (although of course I’d rather you hadn’t been through it!) I am definitely afraid of making mistakes as I feel like I have made terrible decisions in the past (like quitting art school, and getting engaged too quickly) and seem to have no trust in myself to commit to anything. That article is great too – I didn’t realise I had such a problem with uncertainty, I have always thought of myself as a bit of a free spirit but clearly I’m more afraid of it than I realised. I imagine every scenario into the future and end up finding problems with both choices, or I want the good side of both choices because I don’t want to miss anything – which is impossible!