I don’t really know what your current situation with your girlfriend is but it sounds that your kids are your strength and you want to do anything to get yourself feeling better again.

I can tell you i can relate even though i don’t have children my only strength to keep going was my parents when i “felt lost” and did soul searching, tried yoga, meditating but felt like nothing “worked”, or so i thought but i think it had to do with myself.

I wanted to skip all the steps of losing someone (break up) and wanted to go straight to feeling better but no matter how much i tried i think i had to experience the grieving process (denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance).

Finally when i accepted what had happened i was able to really comprehend how yoga and meditating helps, i wish i knew i could implement both at the same time but i guess we all have to go through it differently and learn from all of our experiences.

Give yourself the chance to grieve and accept it, whatever your situation may be, if you don’t accept it how can you begin to change it? i know you don’t feel it now but the only way to find yourself is to lose yourself. it helps to write things down and focus on one thing at a time because you are going through many things at once and it doesn’t help to feel overwhelmed (easier said than done i know) but when you feel overwhelmed you feel like hiding and hoping things will get better on their own but they won’t, so focus on one thing at a time because i am sure things didn’t go from good to bad in one day so the same is when you are trying to “fix” things you can only do one at a time just like the domino effect. Small steps lead to bigger goals and remember you can’t “fix” anyone you can only “fix” yourself.

Hope it helps.