HI Emi I can relate to this very well. I find myself arriving home from work (or even just coming to the end of the day at home) and noticing all that I should be doing before I “let myself” relax for the day. This can create tension in me and between my partner and I, especially if he is ready to relax and I am still go, go, go. I have learnt to create transition rituals for myself (those rituals especially to help us shift gear from one role to another). My favourite is a soak in the bath. As I run the bath and undress I  mentally review my day and its achievements/successes. I practice mindfulness in acknowledging the opportunities and kindness towards myself in dealing with the challenges. The sound and warmth of the water can be very soothing and I also sometimes listen to a meditation podcast on my phone. Before I exit the bath I also think about something nice to do for the evening.