Hi Kinny

Thanks for your response. You’ve for sure given me something to think about. I don’t believe he is a ‘bad’ person but a changed person not in a positive way (I think there is a difference!) and mostly due to drugs and the temporary mental illness they can bring on. Somewhere deep inside is the man I once loved, I’m sure. I pray for him everyday, that he finds a way back to ‘himself’ for our daughter’s sake.

As you kindly pointed out: “Everyone is doing the best that they can with what they know and what they are capable of at any given point in time.”

I should take heed of this, as I’ve wasted nearly 2 years blaming myself for him walking out. Only to be faced with a truth 2 months ago, when he personally admitted that he had done it before! (Walked out on his first wife and child at 7 years. Went to live with another woman and didn’t make contact with his daughter for a year.) I didn’t ‘know’ his history but I do now. So I should for sure at this ‘point’ use that to move forward and away from total blame.

I’m going to take your advice seriously and stop “focusing on figuring people out” and focus on “staying productive” Avoid the “why?” and “what if?” I realise that will be better use of my energy as its in low reserves right now!

I will check out the recommendations you messaged too.

I thank you again for reaching out to me: an objective person is often the best person to help bring perspective to a situation!