When I was younger, I did a lot of that, I was trained to react like a gladiator to challenges, after all, I was a man and needed to be prepared, I fought a lot, sometimes it made me feel proud, because I was lucky and nothing happened to me, but I alienated people, I felt scared and wanted to fix it, so I started to see what I could do. I don’t plan to give you advice, but I can tell you what happened to me.
1. I started to repeat myself there was nothing wrong with feeling angry, but I didn’t want to act based on that feeling and hurt people, specially the people I love.
2. I reinforced myself stem with different exercises, you need to understand there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, just skills you need to master, all people feels angry, they just know how to shut it off, it takes practice, but you are not bad, just in a learning process
3. I developed some techniques to release steam and avoid hurting people, if I get angry, I go for a run, or I punch a pillow or a punching bag, or I do yoga, you get the idea.
I hope the anger goes aways.