Hi Wildoceanflower,

Your post was the first thing that I read on the forums. I’m new to the site and thought that I would give this a try. Great job on writing your feelings down. It takes a brave person to do this. The break up that you experienced sounds very difficult for you and from what you’ve shared, something highly difficult to move through. BUT you are moving through it. I went through a divorce recently under the most frustrating circumstances. It took me a whole year to find my voice again. I isolated from friends and family and everything seemed to irritate me easily. That was short and saying the least. This is about you. 🙂 I don’t think there is one formula to get through through the pain of a break up well. Fortunately, there are thousands. Find. Your. Voice. You are more than the sum of your relationship with this other person. You are an amazing person on your own! Feeling your pain is healthy, but staying there is not. What other interests do you have? Is there an area of study that you’re interested in learning more about? Is there a beach nearby? Library? You can be as creative as you want to be. I’m a natural giver, so I dealt with my pain through helping others. I joined a non profit and volunteered my time. Forgive yourself for being human. Get inspired by something bigger than yourself. Journal or blog more to release that pain. Yes, life is not fair, but it is beautiful. It is more beautiful with you in it going after your dreams and aspirations. Lastly, I wanted to share a quote with you that I read this evening on a post: “Honey, we aren’t here on this earth to rise above life. We are here to walk through the mud. The magic is in the mess.”

The magic is in the mess, wildoceanflower. Hope this lifts you up. Thank you for sharing your post.