take note: you said she is more accepting of help after a big problem,,, this makes me feel she knows something could change yet when the storm passes ,,,she is back to her “safety”zone. again I, being from an unhealthy accepting place relate to her. most do not want to acknowledge or admit our “fears” for we feel safer keeping them buried. like familys w/ skeletons in the closet…. they kno they r there just don’t tell.