anything that breaks you down is unhealthy. Your confusion comes from resisting or wanting to accept reality. I had the same experience with my ex husband who left me for another this spring. some people can’t be what you need, emotionally there for you. It may never change, and if it bothers you to have to ask for emotional support, accept this in yourself, there is nothing wrong with you. Move on.
The constant criticism will erode your true self, and make you second guess everything. In time you won’t know who you are anymore, or what needs are important to you.
Constant criticism is a form of abuse. How do you feel when this happens? The emotional neglect you feel now will also not change. You need to accept reality dear. It’s possible he’s just not able to change these things and you don’t need to fix him, or yourself.
Get some distance and be by yourself awhile. You do not have to run from man to man. and truth is, no one person can make you happy. There is no Mr. right. when you can be happy on your own, you will attract someone who cares for you in the way you need.
Accept reality that this person is contributing to your experience in life, to teach you what you need in a relationship. Nobody can make you anything for the long term. Eventually real life sets in and who made you happy in the beginning, may not as life unfolds. There are many times when I felt neglected, had i truly seen it for what it was, I could have saved myself a lot of hurt. He told me he can’t change who he is, and it’s true. Relationships are based on emotional connection, and feeling safe with each other. Some people just can’t be there.