Yes. Speaking as a veteran of a 9 yr. relationship from teenagers that ended in divorce. Iām assuming you are in your early 20āsā¦. and this being probably your first or only relationship with nothing else to go on as well. I feel obligated to say something. From the sound of it your hearts arenāt in this. Reasons: heās saved no money, you are āexpectingā to be close to if not engaged āalready after 8 yrsā and you feel like you arenāt going anywhere. These attitudes are not the attitudes to have. You said it yourself heās a nice guy and all but not once in your post did you say you are head over heels in love with this man and can definitively say he is THE ONE. You canāt say heās a man because he isnāt just yet, heāll get there but not now. But his actions and yours just prove this is a conflict of attitudes and interests. Furthermore, when you start to get on the internet for answers to your relationship you need to talk to him. Because the more you communicate with him the quicker you find out the truth and the quicker you do that the better. Trust me! I wish you both the best of luck regardless.