I do the same. Instinctively my mind wants to pick things apart and like you know its unhealthy. So I let myself have the thoughts, listen to them (because theres no use in denying they’re there) and then letting them go, detaching any emotion from them. Its just another facet to your probably very sensitive, passionate and interesting mind and heart. You have to have the good with the bad. Don’t be so hard on yourself for having these thoughts, we’re all untitled to our weaknesses!

It’s likely that its rooted in insecurity, trying to protect yourself so not to be taken for a fool. My advice is to not resist them just don’t indulge them. Who know’s what he’s thinking?! You NEVER will feel like you do, so stop trying and be OK with that. He doesn’t know what your thinking all the time! You enjoy your time with him. You sound smart enough to know if it turns out to be an unsuccessful relationship.

If your still not sure, speak to a close friend about your relationship. Friends (or anyone someone close) will want what’s best or yo and can advise you if he actually is not a good relationship for you )

If you feel yourself being overwhelmed by these thoughts distract yourself, have a laugh with your friends, do something that you enjoy. I’m sure they’ll disappear!

If it does become too much don’t be afraid to seek professional help too.

It’s natural, don’t be so hard on yourself, be ok with what you want (to be with him) and being vulnerable. It is very empowering really.

Good luck!