Hi Maggie,

Thanks so much for your thoughtful words. I don’t doubt that I love him completely and I am personally willing to wait if that means we can be together and have a simple life in Canada. I think you are right that I will always wonder ‘what if’ if I don’t reach out to him. My preference would be to talk in person about my feelings and his feeling, which would mean that I would need to travel to London. I would really like to go in the spring but this depends on my work and finances.In the meantime, we are trying to arrange to talk and reconnect more than what we have been doing through recent e-mails. If he doesn’t want to try again, you’re right that then I can close this chapter and move on.

I hope that at some point my family would accept my choice if we decide to pursue our relationship. They are entitled to their opinions but I need to make the space for myself to live my life. I haven’t felt this emotionally close to anyone else before and that’s far more important to me than having a prestigious job.

Long distance is very hard and I wish you luck with your relationship. It is a journey!