Dear Jaz,

I have been in the same situation before. Relationships can be sticky, especially those long distance. A real relationship requires trust, respect, and the ability to feel comfortable around one another. How boring would things be if you were constantly at that “honey moon stage”? If this is truly bugging you, you should try to spark up the relationship EVERY now and then. Make texting fun, crack jokes, go out for an adventure, and most importantly change your routine with your partner once in a while. It is easy to feel too comfortable to the point where attraction between the both of you does not exist. But just keep in mind, that a relationship should be more like a friendship. If this person makes you feel secured, happy, respected, and provides you with the things you look for in a partner, don’t let this person go. Don’t feel about about thinking this way. I’ve talked to some of the strongest couples out there and they have told me this same thing. Love doesn’t just happen. Its a choice we make. We choose to be with someone because they benefit us in a way (emotionally) and this usually requires experience to know the difference between long-term vs. short-term love. Short-term love is about adrenaline and that honey moon stage. If you constantly think this way, you will be disappointed with expectations you set for the relationship. If I were you, I would focus on the good qualities of your partner and turn every flaw into a beautiful attribute. Commit to talking things out calmly, and maybe you might bring this topic up and see how he feels about it.