Thanks Howard!

I know he has feelings for me, I know he loves me, but he is paralysed by fear and it is not about what I would like it to be, it;s about what I deserve.
I have no hard feelings for him, the other way around, but I am vulnerable right now and not being in contact is helping me to build up a new core and protect myself for further damage.
Love must be something that flows, not something constricted by a lack of warmth. We have to learn the hard way that not everybody is on the same page, but that’s life
Thanks for your prays, I am very confident you will overcome this situation too
Choose the sunny side and everyday you will feel a bit better and a bit is much more than nothing 🙂

Dear Howard

I am sorry to hear that you are in such pain. Two days ago my (ex) boyfriend broke up with me for the same reasons, the same old song ‘I can’t make you happy, you are too good for me…’ I cried my eyes out and begged him for a chance, he refused saying that he didn’t deserve that chance. I just couldn’t understand why not, why I didn’t worth a try and I came to the same conclusion as Singh, I am better than him, he’s right and I am too good and because I do believe that I have done the following:

1/ I have deleted him from all social media, his number, his friends, his family. I have cut all kind of link with him. This way I avoid the circle of ‘he’s not texting me, I will send him a text a see how he’s doing, he’s not replying or he didn’t reply what I expected’ and then more tears, more regret. more pain… The situation is painful itself, so please don’t add anything on top and avoid any contact or painful memories such as pictures, texts, emails…delete that from your new life.

2/ I called all my friends and explained what has happened and what he said so they can be objective with the situation and stop me from fooling myself. Also, they keep me company, which I really appreciate right now because it eases the emptiness.

3/ I cry a lot, I feel in pain and I miss him a lot…but I don’t beat myself up about it. It is the natural way, re-birth is always a struggle, but the result worth the battle. You (and me) will be a new person after this, bigger and better. You may not see this now, but trust yourself and keep going.

4/ I have focused on all the positive in my life, my job, my friends, my family and all the positive within me: I am smart, lovable, worthy, etc Talk to yourself on the mirror, write a love letter to yourself, advise yourself what you would advise to your best friend.

I know this situation sucks, but trust that this too shall pass. You will recover and you will smile again. Good things will come along too.

I hope this helps you a bit 🙂

All the best