The fact that you are asking if you should leave, means that you should. If he were the love of  your life and all things were right you wouldn’t even THINK of leaving. I had these same feelings 7 years into my marriage and I almost left. He begged me not to and I stayed for another 20. They were very very hard.

You are so very young and have your whole life ahead of you.

Please don’t settle with someone that can squeeze you by the throat no matter how you perceived it to be (non-threatening).

At least take a break from him and see how you feel.

I predict that you will feel lots of relief.

Blessings to you and may you find strength to do what you need to do.

Think of it like the Markets. The less there is, the more value it gets. The more there is of something, the less value.

Right now, you want to have more value in his eyes so make less of yourself to him and get on with your life so he can see that you aren’t clinging to him.

One thing about a man is that if he wants you, he will make a move towards you. Running after him in any way will just lower your value to him.

I know it all sounds horrible that we are like this but it is true. Especially, if he is on the fence. A man wants to capture his women. Let him do it. Good luck!

Whatever weaknesses we have, we are given strengths as well. No one has everything. It may appear that they do or that we wish we had what they have.

Physical beauty is over-rated. It shows the superficiality of life.

Are you healthy? Are you in chronic pain? If you are healthy and not in pain then you have so much going for you. I am not making light of your feelings or saying… ” just be thankful for what you have” I understand your feelings. I am just saying that given the choice would you give up your health or take- on illness if it could give you physical looks that you want? Maybe you would. There is nothing wrong with that.

If a man will hit the gym and exude confidence that is all that matters. For a man to be attractive all he has to do is possess a good self esteem and work out. I know a man right now who has the same characteristics that you describe about yourself but he is funny and works out and his passion makes him very attractive.

Being too into yourself will drag you down.

I hope I am not coming across as non-supportive. I feel you. I am just trying to offer you some hope. Blessings to you.

I believe that happiness shows much humility. I say this because my dad was happy. And he was humble. The reason these 2 attributes go together is because to be happy, we have to be able to accept that we are not in control and that we are under the direction of a greater power. In my life and in my father’s life, it was trust in God. I asked him one day how it is that he was always happy and at peace. He said that he prayed about everything and then let it go and trusted God in whatever it is.

That kind of faith takes a tremendous amount of humility.

To want to fix the world is noble but it is not our job. We want to be in control but we cannot. To acknowledge that we are not in control and to accept things takes faith and trust and humility.

Things are not perfect, so why be so happy? Because it is not yours to fix and you are showing that you understand your role in life by being happy. You are accepting and forgiving.

It is a wonderful thing.

My dad was the greatest man I have ever known and this part of him was so precious.

Being happy is such a blessing and testimony to having faith and trusting in good outcomes. Blessings to you!