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    Hi Ladybug. You have written this issue quite well. I have dealt with bulling. The thing is that you have to look at this as his issue and not yours. How we all react to what ever situations is our issue. We cannot control the other. They are not acting logically and yet we want to “fix” them logically so they quit hurting us. Therefore, you need to focus on you. I too was feeling judged and treated poorly by another. I Googled “how to get over feeling judged” -so I was dealing with my problem of my feelings and not his comments. I read a great line that if we are feeling judged, “Instead of focusing on being perfect and eliminating any chance of being judged, focus on what matters for your own growth, success and happiness.” I read a lot on dealing with aggressive people so I did not let them hurt my self-esteem, I quit reacting to what ever was said and walked away,(I no longer felt the need to justify anything they said by my reaction), I read a lot on emotional intelligence- learning self-regulation and learning to recognize and control my emotions. I created life goals and focused on those. So when I was being bullied or treated poorly I knew it was his issue and not mine. Hope this helps.

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