Dear Romanticdaydream

Unfortunately life is not a Hollywood
romcom where all of the heroine’s
obstacles are
resolved in 1:30h and she ends up with
her Prince Charming for a happy ever after.

Life and people are full of
contradictions and ambiguity.
That is what make our struggles so hard
but the outcome is so worthwhile..

I interpret your situation thus:

From your mentioning “First love” I guess
that you are still a young woman.

You want to go out with your
girlfriends, travel, flirt a bit, meet interesting
people, find out who you are and what
you want to do with your life..

AT the same time you find yourself with
this amazing guy. But what once felt
wonderful suddenly feels like too much of a burden..

You feel responsible for him being happy,
for the relationship and it’s all just
too much..

It doesn’t make you a bad person..

Maybe you were too harsh on yourself,
put too much pressure on yourself to make him him happy..

Just let go.

You can make all the plans in the
world, life will turn out the way
it will turn out.

You may be happily married for the rest
of your lives or he may get cold feet
before the weddding and leave you for
the sexy cheerleader
he met at his sister’s prom..

You can not plan everything, you can not control everything and you can not make
him happy because that is an inside job.

A relationship is about growing together.
You can certainly explore life and who
you are
with him by your side.
You don’t have to be single to enjoy your
youth.

Take things slowly and if you decide to
get
back together with him don’t forget who
you are outside of the relationship.
Make time for friends and hobbys!

Hope this helped a bit .

Take care!

xxx

Magalie

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