Hi there,

I really feel for you with this. I am currently going out with someone who has an overbearing mother. It’s been very difficult for me, someone who was very much left to her own devices by her own parents. Here are some points I hope might help, based on my own experiences and what you describe above…

Firstly, to carry so much hate, for so long, is only damaging to one person – you. You need to accept this feeling for what is is and wish to transform it rather than seek revenge. Karma might never arrive for this person, nor will it help you to wish ill upon them.

Secondly, you ask why Lisa should feel so special. Well, what does it matter! That’s her experience in this lifetime, not yours. Do *you* feel special? Perhaps if you felt that you were, you wouldn’t feel such pain at seeing someone else feel like that.

Finally, you are asking why no-one was kind to you during that experience. I admit, it sounds very harsh. The adults around you did not behave well. But, again, the only person who can forgive things now is you. You were only a second grader? So was Lisa! Try forgiving that little girl first. Then, work on her mother, your own, and everyone else involved. Practising a loving kindness meditation would help.

You might want to look into other ways (counselling, NLP, etc) of changing your thoughts/feelings, as to have had them for so longer might require some help from others.

Above all, as you attempt to resolve this, be kind to yourself. You were obviously very hurt, but all wounds can be healed.

Good luck x