The sticky situation is that we are a young couple who is starting off, he didn’t have a stable home, moved from place to place because hes mom is a narcissist and has mental problems. I as well had a very unhealthy living situations as my parents were alcoholics. Hes mom had an episode and kicked us out of her place where we were renting literally overnight and thats when we found our own place. I have a job so i get a monthly income and he relies on monthly sponsors which isn’t always the most reliable income. I have saved up money to go study. but if all fails with him ill need to use that money to find a new place. He doesnt fully understand how this affects my life if he abandons our current support system. Like any couple we were going to grow together and we built a strong bass that we can trust(so i thought). Sabotaging your only foundation and home with love to find yourself. its very strange to think of that logically.

I felt i needed to hear a different opinion on my situation to gain clarity on whats the right thing to do in my case, or to see if anybody else has experience this weird behavior in a relationship.

Yeah it seems he still does quite a bit that involves me. A man who didnt give two hoots would have distinctively pulled away in doing all those little things he does for me. He is aware that i am still hurt and he would of run for the hills with all the emotional distress i threw at him last week. He got overwhelmed when i kept sending emotional texts and trying to get close to him but he has remained respectful and he sort of behaves like a best friend. i have learned that the more i try pull him closer, the further he tries to push me but the happier and more content i am the more hes drawn to me. I have to admit that i am not the same girl he met 2 and a half years ago, ive slacked down tremendously when it came to working on myself and i dont mean in the physical sense but more as an individual. I havent been growing and bettering myself and if he is on a growth path and i stay stuck in my same ways, it wont excite him to get back with me. Raising the bar on my values and my self worth is only making the steaks higher for him to lose. Creating an amazing women out of this  painful break is not only going to gain much respect and admiration from him but also raise my standard of what im willing to accept when in a relationship with someone whether it be him or anyone else. Its very difficult to keep focused on the positive and not get drawn in by the absence of what we use to be. I want things to just happen naturally, Him and i are very compatible and attracted to each other, the less pressure i put on him to commit to a relationship with me the more drawn he will be to take me off the market. as a man it cant be easy to witness a woman you love be on the market because thats what it initially means when you take a break or break up. I am not ready to meet a new guy or emotionally connect with anyone just yet but he needs to see that there is a risk of other guys noticing the great qualities i have.

Yes i have sacrificed alot for hes growth, and i believe he has this great desire to be more than just financially stable as right now he doesnt have a stable income due to being an athlete. He shares hes plans and progress to work towards bringing in more income. so far hes been meeting up with a mutual acquaintance who helps build brands and she will be assisting him in putting him out there and providing him with opportunities, only uncomfortable part of that is this woman i have seen has great attraction for him and they have scheduled a twice a week meetup to work on building him up. Him and i have agreed to not see anyone or hookup with anyone until things are clear between us. And its difficult to know if he still has any love for me during this cold period of his. He and i both only have each other as this point as we share expenses in the house. he requested that when we go out in public that i dont engage in any indications of interest with other guys infront of him. I think he feels like crap because of the pain he is causing me and he feels he doesnt deserve to tell me not to see other people. I wanted to go study but i fear he may decide to just discard me and i will be left with nothing, so i have to keep my study savings just encase he decides he wants out. I feel a little insecure and not good enough because of his unsatisfied nature within his life. I have been there for him when he had nothing and when things werent going good for him and now he feels that a relationship causes him to get too comfortable and he cant be comfortable at this point in his life due to not being who he wants to be financially. Im starting to think he spooked himself with pressure of marriage and kids because he sometimes refers to me as his wife and he always talked about being a father but both of us arent ready for that step in our lives. So a man who thrives off feeling like a provider and a success… failing and not having motivation to take action is his life has led to this horribly uncomfortable and stressful faze.

Our family and friends dont know we are on this break, and he is known to be the protective type towards me even during this weird faze, i disappeared for a weekend and didn’t tell him anything of where im going and i refused to answer his calls or respond to his messages which led to him freaking out and calling my friends and family. i felt he needed to feel what its like not to have me around and not know what im doing.

Today he wants to go see a movie… these little things we do together is what confuses me especially when im just looking for peace and hope of him coming back.