Hey there,
Life can never be easy. When the one you think you will love forever left you with some strange reasons or even without any reason, you’re heart broken. Sometimes your life is just in a mess, bad things come one after another. You cannot choose what you will face, but you can choose the attitude to respond.

Look at the positive side in your life. You’re playing hockey in a national level. It’s amazing. You can get admitted by a foreign university, which shows you are a very intellect person. Be positive to your future. You’ve already in such a bad situation, what can be worse? You’re a great guy. You’re talented and you’re already better than many, many people in this world. Be grateful to all the achievement in your life. Things will turn around eventually. Good luck!

Hi Jefferson,
I really can understand you feeling right now. If you have read my story, you will know that. You had faith in your relationship, you believed she also had, but she failed you. You wanted to do anything for her, but she just ignored you and blocked you. I was exactly in the same situation as yours. I was also blocked by my ex. But you can always find a way to reach her, but what’s the point?

You’re so young. You’re only 18. I’m 100% sure that you will find a better one in your time. I know at this moment all you want is to get her back. But there’s simply nothing you can do that can change her mind. Focus on yourself! Try to forgive yourself. I know when things are worse, it usually become worse and worse. You have so many shitty things in your life and you just can’t get rid of them. But you should try to find a positive way to face the life. Take every frustration as an opportunity for growth. Have a bigger picture. In many years later, when you have got through all this and look back, you will be grateful that you have experience so much that makes you become a positive, strong and tough guy.

Although I think you still have a chance to get her back, you should just move on this time. Don’t hold any hope. Fate will come eventually. No matter who’s the next one in your life, you should get ready for her. Improve yourself!

Good morning Albana,
Don’t feel sorry about anything at this moment. Look, it’s totally acceptable that you can’t concentrate on any work at hand. Try to explain to your boss if you feel you should. I’m now studying in Canada. I came to Canada because of my ex. I’ll have exams this week but I totally messed up my easter holidays that are supposed to prepare for my exams. There is just no way you can get over everything immediately. I vent a lot to my parent and friend around me. I spent a lot of time online searching for others’ stories and wisdom that help me get through all this. We are in the same situation and doing the same thing.

Age difference…I don’t know. She thought that I was too immature, which may be a big reason for breakup. She’s 26 and I’m 26. He’s 39, and therefore he’s supposed to protect you and take care of you, but he didn’t. So why do you bother yourself about him? I know you feel so bad that he seems not hurt at all. But remember, no matter what he really thinks, what he feels is irrelevant to what you feels. What are you hoping for? If he feels bad, he may can’t help and back to you?

Now what you need to do is to follow some tips in the article you shared to me. Thanks a lot for your shared link, it’s a great article. The most important step is to start, today. Stop contact with him, or any his families. Stop looking for reasons and how he feels. Accept the breakup, embrace the impermanence. Dating with yourself……I read an article about dating yourself, sorry I can’t find the article at this moment…basically, it says that you should treat yourself very well. You used to cook for him, now cook for yourself. Go to a very nice restaurant and enjoy a great dinner. Do anything that may make you feel happy. I know you don’t want to do anything now, you only want to lock yourself and grief. But just try to push yourself a little bit hard. Again, time heals everything. I hope you can get better day by day. You’re always welcomed to talk with me.

Hey Albana,
I’m glad that you feel a little bit better now. You’re right, if you really decide to move on, just cut every possible way that can make u reach him or vice versa. I know it’s really, really hard. Because you loved him, and you two shared so much memories, many minor things in your life will even make you remind him. Today when I went to brew a coffee, i would remember how she brew coffee for me in the past. It’s tough. But believe me, we both will get over it.
I’m facing the same question as yours since my ex ‘s bday is coming in 2 weeks. As yesterday she texted me that do not bother her anymore with a very cold tone, i decide i will not contact her in any ways. Whether or not wish him is up to you, but I feel you shouldn’t. After all, it won’t change anything. The earlier you move on, the sooner you get better.

I’m sorry for hearing that. It really sucks. I guess at this point no matter what you say, he won’t take it. The fact is that he knows you miss him, but he deliberately ignore you. Don’t hold any hope, move on. The fate will come naturally. My story was that we engaged, we broke up. I kept changing myself in the 2 months after our breakup, holding the hope that the new me will attract her again. But after 2 months, I got the news that she got a new boyfriend. I was totally freaked out. I shouldn’t hold any hope. Now i’m suffering great pain again. I tried the same thing as you did, but she replied that what I did just let her feel more disgusting. So please calm down. Get back to your own track. The only chance is that he wants you back in the future. Unfortunately you can do nothing to let him want except that you keep moving on. When the chance comes in the future, you may catch it. But don’t hold any hope. Life is cruel. I’m so regretted now but I can’t get back to the past. You can only look forward.