First of all, I congratulate you for your willingness to take this leap of faith in yourself when it comes to socializing. I’m an introvert myself, and I know how it feels to have only a small circle that you keep to yourself for emotional and mental support rather than a large one that you hardly really know. I’m sorry about what happened to your friends’ group.

Yet, I think right now is a good time to get to know yourself again. My suggestion would be to take up a new hobby, best if it is outdoors and has a community where you live. It would also be a good idea if you could consider coaching to make the process easier to shift from the divorce and to redefine your goals, and your motivation in life. However, it is not necessary as there is so much that you can do by yourself: Go on a trip if you can and try to rebuild your circle of friendships, join a reading club. There are so many options for you right now and the key is to find the joy of being yourself out there again.

I hope you find what you’re looking for soon, my friend.

All the best,

Luna

Dear Joe,

I hope this reply finds you well.

While reading your submission, I felt so much depth behind the story of your relationship and I caught on the care that each of you have for each other. From what it seems to me and from your narration, I feel like this could be a decisive time for your relationship and that does not necessarily mean a bad thing. In this sense, since evolving is only natural and you both seem to have a great love for each other, getting through this tough time for both you as individuals and partners will do wonders for your relationship if you do find each other again. This is the best time to wish each other well, to learn to be patient, to find the courage within yourseleves to go through life and its challenges, this the time to explore your possibilities as individuals and together as partners or as people who really care for each other (labels aside).

While I can see how this time might feel really hard for you, and for her as well, it is going to test the depth of your relationship in a way that you will have a direction if you come back together, and even parting, although it does sound tough right now, would be done mindfully. The most important thing, right now, it seems to me, is for you to have no expectations and let go of any outcome. You need to be sure of what you want so that when the time comes to make a decision, whatever it is, you will make it proudly and certaintly.

For now, as well, do your best to listen to how you feel and take care of yourself, and be receptive when she needs help. Those moments of help are always remembered. It is most likely that you will be a good and sweet memory of her if your hand is outstreched for her to hold regardless of the outcome after her healing process. Have faith in the beauty of your relationship and have faith in yourself that this is temporary and better times are coming for both you. I wish you both the very best and I hope that you can find comfort in these words somehow.

Also, I wish her a successful healing and I hope you both find the strength that you need in these hard times.

Be well.

Sending you peace and love your way today,

-LunaisHere

Hello Maisy! I hope this reply finds you well

I have read your submission well. From my understqnding of your situation, this is my input:

First of all, your reaction to the person in question`s text after so much time having passed is valid. Meditate on the way you feel.

The good news is that you are not alone in this experience. In a way, I relate to the feeling of having boundaries with people despite having met a couple of times. However, not everyone get that message and at worst, they take it personally.

In this context, what I think would be best in this situation is to give it time and apply the benefit of doubt to this person. Try to find it in your heart not to feel attacked by this person for the tension. In this sense, the best way would be to focus on the way you truly feel and journal the process of speaking about these emotions on a seperate notebook.

In addition to the sound points of view shared above, consider the following phrases (whose owner I do not remember): What you feel, you attract, and where focus goes, energy follows. Hence, in the current time, be gentle with yourself and avoid reading into your feelings. Keep in mind that this situation is temporary and healthy friendships are effortless.

I hope this helps. Stay strong!

– LunaIsHere