Hey Alexy,

Apparently a lot of engineering students end up graduating from engineering school and not pursuing a career in engineering and that is ok. My brother is an environmental engineer and he seems to like it. But it definitely helped that he had that internship with his old boss in a small company.

Bottom line is you gotta do what feels right for you. It’s ok to try stuff out and if it doesn’t resonate with you, try something else. Truthfully, no one really knows what is going to happen in the future. There is no shame in wanting to work in a grocery store or Walmart. I’ve been in nursing for a few years, and I welcome the idea of working at a retail store.

I really like what Alexey has said to you. Go out and explore! 🙂

Good luck!

Lucia

Hi July,

I might be a little biased, but I really think going to Uni would really broaden your horizons and I guess life experience. I wouldn’t discount your time in Australia, but Uni is a fantastic time to meet new people, learn new things, and really grow into the person you will become. I don’t know, I usually figure if it’s meant to be it’ll happen again at another time when the timing is right. Really what it comes down to is what feels right for you?

Lucia

Hey Chris,

Now is your time to go explore! Try out different hobbies, events, meet new people. When you start doing, you kind of start feeling what resonates/feels right for you. That’s what self-discovery is all about. Trust in yourself, you’ll find your way. 🙂

Lucia

Hi Danger,

My advice is to keep saying Hi and smile to every and any girl that you encounter. With practice, you’ll be more comfortable approaching a girl and start talking. Sounds like you like some confidence, so really there are no words and approach that are “right”. You’ll find the words when you get more comfortable and confident.

Well the only other part is sometimes you might get the acknowledgement and sometimes you might not. Don’t get discouraged. Just move forward. There are plenty of girls out there.

I hope that helps. 🙂

Lucia

Wow! I love how philosophical this topic is. 🙂 Life is definitely a journey. Some of us find out our “purpose” earlier than others. I’ve found that I really love helping others. I went through some tough times with my career and took some time to realize that I still really love helping others.

I think a really great way of finding what “your purpose” is, is by volunteering. You get a lot out of giving your time. I dunno…that’s just what I’ve found through experience.

Hi Jeff,

You got to ask yourself what you really want. What makes you truly happy? It definitely takes two people to make a relationship work and no one really knows what the future holds. Something I realized after the second and last break-up with my ex, we should have started back at square one instead of jumping back into where we left off. That’s about all the advice I can give you. I think that might be the only way to know if things will be different this time around. Those are my two cents. I hope this helps even if it’s just a little bit.

I hope you find happiness in whichever direction you choose to go.

Lucia

Hi Britt,

Sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time. I agree with Matt’s response. Sounds like you are being a bit rough with yourself. Break-ups aren’t easy, not sure if this is your first, second, fifth, or x-ith. Now is your time to take care of yourself and reflect on how you want to be treated in future relationships. Take this as a learning experience, we go through different relationships and learn from each one what we like and don’t like in a partner.

I hear you on wanting answers. But in the end does it really change anything? Time to focus on yourself and surround yourself with positive people. Do things that you really enjoy. Go out and meet new people. 🙂 It will take some time and patience, but things will get better. Be your own best friend.

Hope some of this resonates with you.

Lucia

Hi Hopeful,

Wow! I have to agree with what Matt has said to you. Your friend has her own “issues” to deal with. Sometimes friendships come to an end. It’s definitely not an easy feeling, but if it isn’t working for you anymore, it’s time to let go. Unfortunately, we can’t be everything to everyone. You can only do so much to help someone else, after that it is up to them to help themselves. More importantly, you’ve got to take care of yourself.

Even though it hurts (i know from first hand experience with a friend of my own), it can be liberating to be free of a toxic relationship. Letting go of what isn’t good, opens up the opportunities for all the good things!

Definitely let her know how you feel and just move forward from there, no matter what her reaction is. There are great people out there! 🙂