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    Lotus Flower
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    Hey Natalie, how are you?

    I understand your feelings – I’ve been through a phase where I was doing things that my friends considered “cool” but that I didn’t enjoyed to do… until the day I realized: “you know what? Sc*** everything, I’m a human being and have the right to be whatever I want to be!!” So I started paying attention at myself: what are the things that pleasure me? Which don’t? Do I have to do things that my friends think it’s cool and I don’t? Why do I think I have to do these things?

    So, in my humble opinion, I thinks it’s a good idea for you to think over these:
    – why does it matter so much for me what people think of me?
    – If I act trying to make people think good things about me, will these acts actually make my life better/happier?
    – Can I control what people think about me?
    – If I try my best to came up with a good impression, do I have a guarantee they’ll certaily think the best of me?

    When I came up with the answers to these questions, I finally allowed myself to be ME, and not what others wanted me to be.

    So, I’m one year older that you and most people between 18 and 30s here in Brazil go to discos every weekend to dance and get drunk. I love to dance but hate getting drunk, so when I go to these places usually comes a time where everybody’s drunk but me and I feel so displaced… So I stopped going to discos frequently when I was 19. Now, I just go 2, 3 times per year. I spend most of my weekends doing other things I love to do: watch movies with my fiancé, play MMORPG, bake a nice cake…

    And yes, there are people who think it’s boring to do these things in the weekends, but my happiness is more important than their opinion over me, so I choose to be happy and do whatever I want to do no matter what everybody thinks =D

    I started feeling much more free when I allowed myself to do things that made me happy… I highly recommend it =D

    Hope this helps =)

    #76599
    Lotus Flower
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    Unfortunately, I lost my user name of that time and cannot remember who were the kind people that talked to me… I hope they can see this somehow and know this (and this message is for everybody else too):

    Yes, sexual abuses are terrible but it’s possible to put an end to the suffering… yes, enlightenment exists and it was through this very state of conscious that I was able to overcome all that suffering!!

    I want to share my experience to show that this is all possible… I share my experience hoping it can comfort so many women and men who passes through such suffering and my think they don’t have a way out, but there is a way out!

    From tomorrow on there will be one post per day… I’m not writing a short version of my story because I truly want to write all my path… everybody is welcome to comment and/or contact me =)

    Thank you all, especially the kind hearts!!!
    Lotus
    My blog’s url is theflowersididnotsee.blogspot.com

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