Hey Natalie, how are you?

I understand your feelings – I’ve been through a phase where I was doing things that my friends considered “cool” but that I didn’t enjoyed to do… until the day I realized: “you know what? Sc*** everything, I’m a human being and have the right to be whatever I want to be!!” So I started paying attention at myself: what are the things that pleasure me? Which don’t? Do I have to do things that my friends think it’s cool and I don’t? Why do I think I have to do these things?

So, in my humble opinion, I thinks it’s a good idea for you to think over these:
– why does it matter so much for me what people think of me?
– If I act trying to make people think good things about me, will these acts actually make my life better/happier?
– Can I control what people think about me?
– If I try my best to came up with a good impression, do I have a guarantee they’ll certaily think the best of me?

When I came up with the answers to these questions, I finally allowed myself to be ME, and not what others wanted me to be.

So, I’m one year older that you and most people between 18 and 30s here in Brazil go to discos every weekend to dance and get drunk. I love to dance but hate getting drunk, so when I go to these places usually comes a time where everybody’s drunk but me and I feel so displaced… So I stopped going to discos frequently when I was 19. Now, I just go 2, 3 times per year. I spend most of my weekends doing other things I love to do: watch movies with my fiancé, play MMORPG, bake a nice cake…

And yes, there are people who think it’s boring to do these things in the weekends, but my happiness is more important than their opinion over me, so I choose to be happy and do whatever I want to do no matter what everybody thinks =D

I started feeling much more free when I allowed myself to do things that made me happy… I highly recommend it =D

Hope this helps =)