Dreaming715 hi man I totally get you .im a 28 year old male and it’s kinda funny because I feel exactly what you feel as I speak .I as well haven’t had much fortune on finding my other half and I just see everyone around me with there partners and just makes me think why can’t I not have a soul mate .I was in a long term relation for several years until one year she decided to throw in the towel begged and begged for couple of years to work it out but never had .then few weeks ago I had started to talk to another girl n well I didn’t want to be in a relationship bc being scare to get hurt again well it still happened .she got mad at me for no reason and we stopped talking or texting and couple days later she said she decided to move on and that another guy had texted her n she wanted to see where that went I opened up too her but she didn’t say much.she then text me but then started to ignore me once again n it really hurt me bc I thought she was really liking me as I was.and I just want find someone to be happy with and maybe have a family I just can’t seem to find someone I don’t know what I’m doing wrong .any one with advise I’ll greatly appreciate it

@anita yes on the phone see I really don’t see her or talk to her but if I do decide to giver her a call we conversate at least to an hour or more that’s what I don’t understand why would she last that long talking to me when she has no more feelings for me ? And another question is why do u think or would say she moved on quickly and not feeling upset of the breakup don’t get how some people move on so rapidly …

@asher thank you so much for your time and advise to try to help me out very much appreciated..but it’s just that why doesn’t she see that . why can’t she see what I was trying to do for her why does she turn things around and puts we down as if what I did wasn’t good enough but your right I need to move on and do best to forget this girl I’ve done wasted 2yrs of my life for this person that doesn’t care of my feelings just don’t understand how some people can easly move on so quickly

Hey @Allison sorry that your dealing with this awful feeling and situation it’s tough when you think u know someone but end of the day they react diffrent when things don’t work out as planned or wished for. I myself is going thru something similar my ex girlfriend ended a 6yr relationship n refused to work things out n just threw all the hard effort we put into each other to waste and till this point I still have questions unanswered and to be honest maybe I will never know the answer to my questions or the truth. Even when the breakup was recent I would try to get her to talk to me about our situation or breakup but it would only get her agitated and fustrated that it would jus make her end the conversation every time and know when I do rarely see her around or driving by she will not say anything unless I say something first as (greet) she always has excuses and it just kills me inside how she acts as if their was never us to begin with I just don’t see how she does it as if nothing ever happen.while on the other hand im all sad n depressed ..

Thank you @dreaming715 for taking time to read my story and also @asher .it feels nice that we have the same experiences and there’s still people out there that you can relate too ..your absolutely right @dreaming715 time is your best friend heals every wound, but with me it’s going for 3yrs and I still carry this pain n lost love for this girl. on the other hand she’s busy doing her self that she forgot our history we once upon time had..@asher don’t get me wrong bro I took her for granted and maybe didn’t giver her enough love or could have treated her better. I guess that’s probably one reason why I can’t move on because I’m beating my self up of how maybe I could have prevented this from happening if I only did things different.it’s funny @asher that you mention the part about kids because I would say to my self only if maybe we had a child with each other maybe that could have United us together back again n honestly asher this woman turned my life upside down yet I’m still crawling she left me on 2013. On 2014 when I didn’t think things could get worse, well it did it got worst I went to jail then lost my job so I’m back to where I first started off after high school with nothing .we actually don’t talk to each other unless I decide to call but it takes 2 to conversate n I guess that why I limit my self to call her because she puts no effort on trying to see how I’m doing and we’ll u know jus general neutral conversation. For some reason she thinks she doing better than me or is better than me. Well I guess I can say she’s some what is doing better than me because she was able to keep her job reason why I lost mine because depression hit me very bad over this breakup n as u can see it didn’t bother her on bit .but I guess she believes she’s better than me because I had no choice but to move back with my parents bc she kept the house we was living (renting) n well she’s not struggling as far as oh I need a new couch etc. Bc I left her all well furnished everything brand new so she doesn’t know how it feels to not have nothing and to start from the bottom n so maybe that’s why she thinks she’s better or doing better than me n I ask my self how are u better than be when your out there doing same as I am partying n getting wasted .and she also looks down on my friends .but I really did take the extra mile to show her n prove her how much truly I loved this girl and how sorry I was .but she doesn’t believe in 2nd chances I told her I was young n immature , but honestly ppl I never thought I would go this far as far as talking to couselor or going to therapy to try to save a marriage or relationship I guess that’s prove how love truly is a powerful thing that would make people do thugs out of their nature .guess you don’t know what you have till you loose what you had .look forward to hear advises,opinions. Feel free to correct me my friends thanks

Man yea your right I mean I still feel the guilt that if I could have done that this way or that maybe things would be different but it is what it is I just can’t understand and makes me feel what u feel asher because she full of lies and don’t wana be honest she hides her feelings that she prob doesn’t even know her self anymore I feel like all this time being together she was jus looking for a gateway an excuse to break up ..I even left her everything all well furnished and even the car I just grabbed my things and walked away which I didn’t have to do that just that I chose too even fact that we did not have kids together