Hello anita and Inky, thank you both for your replies,

Anita : you’re right, he is a wonderful person and I feel fortunate to have met him. He says he feels so confused by the way I’ve been treated in the past by my boyfriend, and he doesn’t understand how I have been single for that long. But I choose him, specifically, for his qualities and values, and I guess I would like to feel he has done the same about me. I get we function differently though.

As for the silence, this is something I like with him, because we can stay silent without feeling uncomfortable, I think, at least for me. But I’m not sure for him and I never know if it’s because of his loner habits, shyness, little interest in me… anxiety is taking the lead there !

We spend a lot of time being close, just cuddling or hugging without being sexual and he tends to open up a bit more in those moments too. Maybe it’s just not easy for him too ?

Inky : we do not have plans for the holidays yet as we will be both working until the very last minute before Christmas. He has made plans though for January when we will have more free time and even if he did not say it directly to me, I overheard a discussion on the phone and understood that he was starting to make arrangements with work to stay around the next following months and not be sent away as usual.

Christmas is not something we talked about, I guess he is supposed to spend it with his family but in my culture it would be too soon to be introduced to his family. I was thinking to join a friend for that period before meeting him.

I will try to let the pressure go, you’re right!