I made an account here just so I could reply to your post. 🙂 This is SO weird–I am going through something very similar. I met my amazing partner (he’s from the Balkans) a little over two years ago, we got married last summer, and I made plans to follow him to Italy until he finished school here. It’s been a little over two months since I came here. However, originally he was supposed to graduate this Spring, but found out he can’t graduate until July; he was trying to find a job, but hasn’t been able to get work. My savings would have comfortably taken us through the Spring, but we’d have to live on bare minimum if I were to stay til the Summer and probably go broke… and I can’t make much money working here at all. I’ve been having health problems more and more– terrible menstrual cycles, weak, getting sick easily, and found mold (to which I have allergies) in our apartment. We’ve had trouble getting my permit of stay as well.

I ADORE my partner, he’s my best friend, and I never, ever thought I could love someone as much as I love him. But I’ve been so sad, so weak, and I really miss my home and family terribly. I’ve made the decision to leave, and wait for him to graduate, and in the meantime apply for his citizenship for the States (where I’m originally from). It’s the hardest, saddest decision I’ve ever had to make because it means being separated for about 7-9 months.

Yes I could try to stay, work as much as I can so we can have a little extra money, and push myself to be in a place I don’t like and do something that makes me feel sick while hoping I don’t get TOO sick… but really, do I want to? God, no. I’ve lost interest in my hobbies already and just feel generally sad. I know I have to do what’s best for BOTH of us in the long run, and because we’re planning a long life together I decided to make the more difficult decision in order to ensure our future.

We’ve already had experience with having a long-distance relationship, being from two different countries, but this will be our longest separation by far. It’s going to majorly suck, but we are so committed for life that we know we can make it work. I hope this helps a little to hear from someone going through a similar sucky situation! Please contact me if you want some mutual support 🙂