Thank you for your reply and advice Anita. Yes, this constant evaluation will allow me to make progress in knowing who I am and what I want. It can be difficult though when the people around you are different and don’t really try to understand you and when we are so constantly bombarded with images of what our life should be like.

Faye, I think you’re really making a point when you say that loneliness is a state of mind and does not necessarily depends on external circumstances. Even when I was younger I was not surrounded with many people. Yet, I had so many interests and hobbies that I was actually more than happy to be by myself and focus on those. But after some episodes of anxiety/depression, I started losing my interests and stopped those activities. So to figure out who I am now, I’m trying to do these things again and get back to my old passions. I try to figure out what my dreams are, what I really want to achieve, what are the things I have always wanted to do but I have never tried before because I had no time or I was scared. I try new things also to discover new passions and keep challenging myself. I think it is very important to reconnect with our body and emotions too. Because no matter how much you try to fool yourself, your body will always send you signals that you’re going against your nature. I am hoping that meditation, being more mindful and giving myself some space and time will help me identify those signals and find my own path. And I’m trying to reduce the amount of time I spend on social media. I know it contributes to making me feel bad to see everybody exposing their life and it makes me crave for things I would not even care about if I wasn’t seeing them.

I don’t really have a method to be fair, I know that figuring out who I am and accepting me as I am is going to be a slow and difficult process. But I feel it is important to be at peace and be satisfied to know what works for me and what doesn’t. And hopefully, this will allow me to gain more confidence and build more meaningful relationships in the future.

What about you, have you found a way to overcome the feeling of loneliness? And avoid unhealthy relationships?