Dear Anita,  my nickname is Lisa, but not the same Lisa like the one you were replying to. I only came to this website by accident/chance. However, it really intrigued me, and hooked me sort of, because in reality, I was looking for my answers myself. At the moment, all I can say is, that although I don’t really know everything about what this website is and its function, I have seen that you respond to lots of people, and give them lots of good advice. At the moment, although am very very confused myself, I would simply like to thank-you for what you do. As I said, I don’t know the exact purpose of this site, but I do know what it feels to feel burdened and alone, and you seem to be helping lots of people. I thank-you from the bottom of my heart. You have given me some faith in humanity and in the purpose of this life. I once used to be a very very enthiusiastic girl, who seeked happiness in helping others, and like you, I used to make it a mission in loving and helping others. I still do, though I find it difficult due to the burdens and weights I feel. Besides, I am still very young and do not know many things, and although I love my family, I cant always open up with them, because although they will listen, they do not always understand. I am in a state where from one point, I would like to find the purpose of this life, and myself in it, but on the other-hand I feel afraid of what that might be. You know, once I always thought that my purpose was something (was very young) and I just prayed to God, to do not give me that purpose. Perhaps I was childish, and I just let it get to my mind without really being of any substance. However, I was never really a child, I always was too much mature, too mature, that I never knew how to play, sort of, I was always intrigued (from as long as I can remember) of how things happen and why. Instead of playing, I was always intrigued in what the people were doing, what they were feeling, and why. I was always too mature, and it brought lots of stress at times, because you ll have lots of questions which you have no answers for. Last but not least, I am in a point where I will almost graduate – the last bit, and lots of other major important things in my life, all in one basket. So, my attention is on these things, even if I have other things on my mind. I am just trying to focus on things one at a time. The thing which I feel is carrying me around – or I carrying it – is fear.. for everything sort of .. fear of change, of new things, of old ones, of the unknown and the things which I do know about. Perhaps this is life, or perhaps this is what everyone will endure when he puts thoughts into what s/he is doing. As in, at one point, all of us question our lives right? Wishing you all the best xxxx Love & Happiness xxx

Why did you break up with your boy-friend? As the pastor said, keep faith. I once had a break up of my own, and I can feel what you are saying, there were endless cries.. and I could understand what they meant when they said that you “break your heart”. However, I was not in a healthy relationship, he was not the worst, but I was not in a healthy relationship. It took me time to actually leave, but when I did, it took lots of time to move on as well. I ended up doing some other mistakes from which I learned a lot. I cannot say that I have found my purpose in life, but neither can we say that having a boy-friend/man will help us find our purpose in life. Only we can do that for ourselves, and I think that it is a long journey with all of its ups and downs. All I can say though, is that time has passed, I am super happy that I am not in the same relationship, and am very happy to have grown more. I do not want him or anything that has to do with him, although I would not wish him harm. Having said this, I am not connected anymore, not in a good way and neither in a bad way. It’s just that the ties has been cut free. So, to cut a long story short, life WILL GET BETTER, you will turn back and see that things were not as difficult or important as you thought they were. I am in another relationship, I do not think that I am where I am supposed to be neither, and I am confused myself about it. However, I know one thing for sure, he is 100% better than my previous one, and although I am not where I think I should be, I do feel that lots of improvements have been done. And this relationship has helped in other ways. If nothing, I now at least know what it means to have a guy who treats you with respect. Again, I don’t think that perhaps it is my place, because there are some problems regarding mental and emotional connection, which is always making me very confused. However, I can say one thing for sure, that life did move on, that I am in a better state, and that there is a beautiful reason to live for. xxx