Well, I don’t know. I was the “other woman” once as well, but in this case I know *exactly* why this was and why the guy left me for her. I know therefore that I could give him another chance if, if, and if.

About virginity, however. I know some believe there is an angry god in the sky waiting to punish them to hell fire eternal if they have sex with someone they’re not married to. I don’t happen to share this belief, but everyone’s beliefs are their own.

In my case, however, I had a TERRIBLE case of endometriosis, which caused me to need both ovaries and my uterus removed at age 35. Which wouldn’t have been such a big deal, I guess, if I hadn’t waited to have sex until I was 32.

I know we all think, kids are 16, 17, 18, there’s plenty of time for that, wait, wait, wait, wait. But the truth is that life goes by in the blink of an eye. The fact is that when you are in your twenties, that is when your body looks its best, feels its best, and works the way it’s supposed to. If you are going to have endometriosis or some other female problem, it tends to start when you hit your thirties. If you wait too long to have sex, then when you are finally able to have it your body may not function as it should, especially if you have never had an orgasm and now you have to learn at the ripe old age of 35 or something. Then we women hit menopause and perimenopause, and sexual desire goes way down, tissues get dry and thin, and things don’t work the way they should anymore. Your joints start to hurt. Your stomach is huge, you get cramps “during” when you didn’t before, and who knows what other health problems may come up.

Believe it or not, one day we will all reach that age when health issues come up and we will discover that, like it or not, we have had or enjoyed sex for the very last time we ever will. It happens sooner if you are a female, and for some of us a whole lot sooner than we would like. Some of us “waiting til marriage” may never get married, or if we finally do, may find that it’s only a few short years and then our sexual lives are over.

So think about that, before making such a huge deal about virginity. I was raised religious and when it was all said and done, the man I eventually married didn’t give a crap whether I was a virgin or not and neither did I. But now that I am almost fifty, I see where female problems threaten to cut my sex life short, and I am very grateful when things work as they should and I know the time is coming soon when they won’t anymore. So, think about that, and put it in perspective.