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  • February 5, 2014 at 11:13 am in reply to: Difficulty letting go #50350
    Lila
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    Maybe you want him back but you know the cost is too high and unfair .I think you feel like you need to receive a certain feeling from him in order to feel that everything is back in place and ok, but he can’t bring out this feeling to you. I know it’s complicated and painful and difficult and know no easy way out of it. But a friend of mine once advised me to take better care of my self and everything will get better.I try to do the same these days. Take care of our self and your needs. start with small targets that will get you to the bigger. though away the unpleasant thoughts and do things for you.Try to find happiness to other things. I found out that the only thing that weakens me is the fear of not finding a better guy than him. When I escape that fear I am hopeful and see more clear. Maybe tomorrow you meet a new love ,bigger than that. 🙂
    Everyone deserves to be loved .
    Good luck with all my heart !! <3

    February 5, 2014 at 10:51 am in reply to: Am I Overreacting? #50345
    Lila
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    Jade Chen is so write .. 🙂 And Jade .. yes sometimes I am like that too 🙂 Porterman I complain when he get’s out and forgets to come back a) because he knows I long to see him an do something together -> so here comes what Jade Chen said about your needs of together time .
    b) When i see him more excited and happy with his friends than with me . maybe selfish but scares me ,maybe because our relationship is not strong enough.
    There is also a problem when we have different expectations from each other. it gets messy 🙁 But since you want to solve it , everything will be ok 🙂
    I have to deal with a wall 🙂 I hope that these situations are not often.
    Maybe if I was in her place and I wanted so much to spend some time with you before sleeping , I would have asked you to go out with your partner before the appointment so we could synchronize a little . I think I would try to synchronize with you and I would expect the same from you in order to have a better flow and more time together 🙂 but again there are always other parameters .Talk Talk Talk to each other. explore your expectations from the relationship !! Good luck !

    February 5, 2014 at 10:03 am in reply to: Difficulty letting go #50340
    Lila
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    ElisabethIII , I like your approach very much . It’ very similar with what I’d advise a friend . But living in the situation does not allow me to see clearly. So I want to ask ..
    What’s the deal when your partner’s answer ,to your complain of feeling neglected and underestimated by his choices and behaviour, is that it’s in your mind? (e.g baby you feel like that because you have too much free time and no jobs to do( + baby I give you all my free time (crumbles)+sorry at that part of my life , my career comes first of all) ? Why should I feel guilty for needing more love and attention ? 🙁

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