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  • January 30, 2016 at 8:21 am in reply to: Friends who never make an effort… #94304
    Tom
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    My wife’s friend of 30+ years cut off communications with her for no reason.
    It really bothered her.
    A few years later she called and asked outright why.
    The explanation was essentially that she became frustrated that my wife’s life was going good and her own has become stagnant and she never really progressed in 30 years.

    One the other hand, I have cut ties with a person because their life was a negative influence on mine.

    Remember, don’t ask questions you aren’t ready to hear the answer.
    You may find the issue is with your friend or you are the issue.

    Is the answer really that important?
    Either way the relationship is damaged.

    I suggest focusing on closing this chapter and starting a new one.

    January 30, 2016 at 8:01 am in reply to: Issue with neighbor… #94302
    Tom
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    This is a potential for a great learning experience as you are going to continue meeting these types of people throughout your life.
    Things to remember.
    One, you aren’t going to change their behavior.
    Two, even if you were to resolve this issue, you will only find comfort until the next person annoys you.

    Learn what it will take for you to become comfortable in this situation.

    Am I saying you need to work your entire life around everyone’s poor behavior?

    What I am saying is you have two options.
    1 – Change all the people in the world who are annoying which could be a HUGE number of people.
    2 – Focus on changing just one person (yourself) to induce behavior which makes you find piece when having to deal with people like this.

    January 30, 2016 at 4:42 am in reply to: Motivation when working from home? #94296
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    Structure is important.
    Don’t think, “Well since I work from home I will start when I get the urge or start later in the day”.
    Instead think, “Work starts at 8:00am which is the time I will be at my desk working.”
    Also, set small goals. Today, I address (notice I didn’t say complete) this task.

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