Thank you. The only issues are with the job myself and my own self doubt, anxiety about the future. I feel it is a personal issue because its nothing than my boss can for me, its my problem.

I’m just overwhelmed and anxious about every single scenario and possibility which makes it hard to make a decision. I just know I need to make one soon. The idea of only working my 4 week notice rather than waiting for the next job which could take months is appealing. Then again months of unemployment is scary too. Have taken a walk on my lunch break to be alone but have been crying the whole time

Hi,

Thanks for your reply, I know you’re right, Im terrified but this is something I feel I have to do to take my first steps into proper adulthood.

Good new though, I found a job I want to apply for. Its 2 hours away and its a fixed term contract until July 2015 in an area I really think I’d like to do. It seems perfect as I’ll have more than half a year to look into it and if i dont like it then there’s an end. The application date isnt for another 2 weeks so im going to work on it, ask a couple of careers counsellors to check it for me

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies.

It seems like everyday I change my mind about what i want. One minute Im ok with moving up to 2 hours away, then i want to stay at home, then I want to move only a little bit away.

I especially like what Katie said, I feel exactly like this and I can feel my anxiety rising and confidence fading with each year Ive been home since uni – I, like you, felt like my life really was on hold. While I love my mom more than anything, I felt like still living with her was starting to eat away at my self confidence, which was in turn affecting every area of my life! So I decided there was not going to be any perfect time and I just needed to frickin do it already even if it didn’t feel 100% comfortable

Ive found a job I was thinking of applying for which is 2 hours from home, but im not sure if even want the job, or want to apply for it. If i get an interview it then wont be worth the sick day to go to it if im not prepared to move there.

Im just so mixed up and everytime I come up with some sort of plan, someone says something which makes me rethink everything again. The only ‘plan’ i have as such is the idea of taking a fixed term job so I can get experience for a year or so and if i dont like the job area or the town then i have an end in sight and can move.

For the rest of the time i just sit reading through tinybudda articles about taking risks and forgetting fear and while i understand it and know it makes sense, its nit sinking in enough for me to get up and say yes im going to do it.

Thanks so much, I feels good to have someone in am almost identical situation to me. I think you’re right in saying that you’re not going to fine yourself or your path in like by staying ah home.

The place I want to move to is where I went to uni so I know it well and loved it there but I’m looking for jobs in other places to and will visit before I make a decision,

its just the waiting while I’m looking for a job that makes my mind start wondering and questioning everything

Thanks everyone, half of me is excited and wants to do it but there’s just that niggling fear. I keep having dreams that show that Im nowhere near ready for change, at least not a change like moving away. Last night I had a dream that I freaked out because all the furniture had been moved and I hated it!!

I really do want to leave my job though, and Ive been for one interview so far and i went to stay at the place for a couple of days and decided it wasnt for me, so at least i can rule that town out. I do have a couple of plcaes in mind, mostly the town where i went to uni as i loved it there. i know i would always be able to come back home and im deciding to live somewhere thats not so far that i cant come home on weekends