Hi anita,

thank you very much for your answer.

Did you decide on #2- which is in your name here?

I have not decided yet, I just want to hear from you, right now as I said I believe in the long-term the (2) approach is the best one because during certain time-frames I feel in control no matter what happens in the future…

#3 being this: get insight into WHY you stayed in a relationship in which you felt down most of the time, feeling unloved, anxious and mildly depressed for six years? Is this a replay of a past relationship/ past experience? What is it?

Well, I did not feel that way the whole 6 years, just the past 3 but still a lot of time.
I believe I stayed in this relationship because I was afraid of getting alone and leave my routines and my comfort zone all of a sudden. Speaking of that I think I was also afraid to start over again and to be on my own without that person by my side even though our relationship was far from perfect.

In conclusion, I lack confidence in myself and as this was my first serious relationship I am struggling to see a better future after this break up.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 6 months ago by Daniel Vieira.