Fortunately I don’t enjoy shopping except the supermarket where I admit to spending a few extra minutes, procrastinating over whether to buy mince or sausages for example.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 5 months ago by jock.

How courageous you are Sarah!
I agree with Anita.
Strict boundaries with your mother until she gets the message.
That will take a long time.(that she gets the message)
You need to make a brave decision to protect yourself even though that nagging voice inside will say “don’t be so cruel”.That voice will try to make you feel guilty! Don’t fall for it. Be strong!

This is the analogy I use.

You are walking down a shopping arcade. But you refuse to be distracted by any particular shop on the way. You see the dress shop for instance but don’t go in, don’t even think about how wonderful that dress in the shop window would look on you or of they have the exact size you need. Then you see the ice-cream shop with 40 flavours. You start to salivate but no you are strong this time, and come back to the present moment. You keep coming back to the arcade itself, keep walking straight, no detours.
Actually I wasn’t joking. Do you think this analogy is a good one?