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  • September 28, 2015 at 10:36 pm in reply to: If I had my life over again………. #84377
    jock
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    Anita
    you mean you’ve been absent from this world for 50 years? you mean not fully present? Not fully alive?

    September 28, 2015 at 10:35 pm in reply to: If I had my life over again………. #84376
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    lori
    just to add re your idea of me returning to teaching and this time working with older kids:
    I have given this some thought but I would need a serious overhaul
    ie. lose some weight, get my voice projecting louder with more authority, have much stricter boundaries, add Adam the Adult to my posse of inner selves. This guy would display commonsense in dealing with familiarity and boundaries with students. My fear would be that Llama Jack would take over and just want to relax with the kids by being a kid himself. Then the class gradually gets out of control with no adult present. Hence Adam the Adult would need to make his presence felt for sure, in fact stamp his authority over the others……maybe 🙂

    September 28, 2015 at 10:25 pm in reply to: Overwhelming Pain – What\'s wrong with me? #84372
    jock
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    I think your self-esteem is the main issue. If lots of women were fawning over you now, you’d soon forget your ex-wife. Am I wrong?
    If I were in your situation, I ‘d be trying to enjoy my own company for a while. Try to get some self-belief. First work on the superficial kind ie. appearance, lose weight, looking sharp, wearing good clothes. Then work on the soul or inner work which will address such things as your value system and integrity. Start to care what you think of you rather than what others think of you. Can you accept your weak points? Try to honestly admit your strengths, your good points. Compliment yourself when you do something positive..”good I walked 5 miles today. well done!”
    You might want to use visualisation as a strategy. What kind of person can you imagine yourself to be (positive of course)

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    September 28, 2015 at 6:41 pm in reply to: Which movies impressed you? #84358
    jock
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    steve martin in the jerk

    “you mean I’m gonna stay this colour?” his character as an adult finally leaving home with black parents, his mother tells him “the big secret” of him being adopted as a child. 🙂

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    September 28, 2015 at 6:36 pm in reply to: Unfinished Business #84355
    jock
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    ouch!
    status conscious like my Mum!

    September 28, 2015 at 6:03 pm in reply to: how do you look after yourself #84349
    jock
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    I like that: the answers really are in you. You are the best one to answer your questions. Not others. Great freedom and sense of empowerment once you view your own self as the authority figure in your own life, the authority to answer your own questions better than anyone else.

    I think you would advise me to do the same, Anita.
    Still sometimes doubt leads us to a more satisfying answer, finally, after a long time.

    September 28, 2015 at 5:39 pm in reply to: Once a Victim- Always a Victim? #84342
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    If a tree falls in the forest and nobody is there to hear it fall, does it make a sound?

    Like a Zen Buddhist koan Anita. impressive!

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    September 28, 2015 at 2:52 pm in reply to: Empathy for the Abuser: #84337
    jock
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    I think there is a benefit if the abuse has finished a long time ago. Forgiveness helps us heal. Dalai Lama talks about “equanimity” which is different to empathy I admit.

    September 28, 2015 at 2:49 pm in reply to: Empathy for the Abuser: #84336
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    Guess I’ve been brainwashed by Christianity and Buddhism.
    “forgive them they know not what they do” and
    “wish goodwill on everyone including your abusers”

    but what you’ve said recently makes me think twice, even change my mind.
    I just think “hate” gives away your power. But I know you don’t mean that either.

    September 28, 2015 at 2:43 pm in reply to: Do you have a certain diet, and why? #84335
    jock
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    WATER is the best thing you can give to your body. Water, sleep and stretching.

    I agree Pomp. Good point.

    September 28, 2015 at 2:35 pm in reply to: How have internet forums helped you? #84333
    jock
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    pomp
    OK I won’t become a troll here then. 🙂

    Anita
    written word for me too

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    September 28, 2015 at 2:31 pm in reply to: If I had my life over again………. #84332
    jock
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    wow thanks lori
    that is so kind of you to say that
    I wish I had the self-belief to teach anyone but my confidence on here is much higher than in real life 🙂

    September 28, 2015 at 2:27 pm in reply to: Once a Victim- Always a Victim? #84329
    jock
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    Anita
    you are so caring in your posts that I feel humbled reading them.
    Thanks so much. You have given me much food for thought. Much!

    September 28, 2015 at 3:12 am in reply to: Do you have a certain diet, and why? #84266
    jock
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    fruit and veg every day
    at least I stick to that
    But a love of certain cookies
    has added way too much fat

    emotional eating
    guilty as charged
    I hope my sentence will be
    1 year in a Buddhist monastery
    eating only vegan food

    September 28, 2015 at 3:03 am in reply to: how do you look after yourself #84264
    jock
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    I’m in the process of getting a life outside work which includes the following:

    -swimming
    -cycling
    -walking
    -playing guitar
    -learning new songs from youtube on guitar
    -reading biographies eg. famous people like Gandhi
    -attend public speaking club once a week
    -taking dog for a walk
    -morning meditation of 20 minutes

    Internet forums can consume me its true. Like an addiction. I try to limit to 1hour a day now.

    Balance is the key.
    But expressing myself on a forum is a good thing. It cleans out the cobwebs in my mind, which meditation misses.

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