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  • October 11, 2015 at 10:04 pm in reply to: How do you know when it's your problem and when it's others? #85237
    jock
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    I have a similar prayer that goes like this: “God give me the senility to accept my expanding waistline and the wisdom to know when to buy a bigger belt.”
    Rediscover your sense of humour is my answer. Not meaning to be disrespectful but it has helped me.

    October 11, 2015 at 8:46 pm in reply to: Feeling like a failure and that my life has derailed #85234
    jock
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    I second what Anita suggests.
    Cleaning up our room/house, removing clutter, is one of the best therapies for regaining clarity. It is such an obvious option, yet overlooked often.
    I think as we clean, our minds get cleaned too, cobwebs removed etcetera.

    October 11, 2015 at 7:43 pm in reply to: Being a Bully to Myself: #85232
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    These are tough questions to answer Anita.
    I’m kind of vague on this I admit.
    “Placid” means quiet, not seeking attention, problem free.
    I have 4 older brothers. the first 3 were “normal” and I really looked up to all of them especially the intellectual one(s).
    The fourth eldest brother, only a few years older than me, was disabled. He was naughty, would scream a lot,used to run away and Mom had trouble controlling him. I was well-behaved so I think a relief to her because I didn’t demand her attention. I think my parents were very concerned about my elder brother and had trouble communicating with him. (he was profoundly deaf). Eventually they sent him away to boarding school for the deaf. But then my mother was busy again having two more babies (boys) after me. My mother had 7 boys in all, a great contribution to the baby boomer era.
    Honestly I feel guilty now how I have written about this. I had a happy childhood though and a lot of it was with my disabled brother, playing sports outside.

    October 11, 2015 at 7:28 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85231
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    Anita
    So glad that this therapy is working for you and hope it is not just temporary.
    I can’t believe your enthusiasm, natural nurturing ability and insight, did not translate into successful teaching. maybe you just needed to be teaching the right subject, like psychotherapy for instance.
    I need to reply to your other thread and answer your challenging questions.
    I’m fine by the way . I notice your group of troublemakers (inner selves bullies)are more difficult than mine and it is a credit to you, how you tolerate them.

    October 11, 2015 at 2:42 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85219
    jock
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    engage with at your own risk and not while operating heavy machinery.

    good one 🙂

    October 11, 2015 at 2:39 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85217
    jock
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    Anita/Gertrude
    Good morning
    You mean I can finally become rich and famous?
    I don’t have to return to those dreadful workplaces anymore? 🙂

    I ‘d love to think I was being original but Realistic Rodney tells me to think again.Those suffering schizophrenia and hearing voices, do something similar in their workshops/therapy sessions, to my knowledge.
    They identify voices and get to do communication/interaction between them. Surely someone has transferred that to an online exercise by now.

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    October 11, 2015 at 1:15 am in reply to: Need help with my confidence! #85200
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    Reading your last post you seem to be suffering from envy and high life expectations . I certainly don’t like it when I am the one under the pump and everyone else seems to have it easy. So I understand your current position. Good luck.

    October 10, 2015 at 10:10 pm in reply to: Being a Bully to Myself: #85198
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    Unfortunately I have projected this inner bully onto others at times. Not aware of it at the times I was doing it, I can use negative sarcasm to attempt to belittle others. This is obviously something I am not proud of. All I can say is, this bully only bullies himself now which is at least progress.
    On a larger scale, I can imagine countries like America, China and Russia bullying smaller countries. in this sense, it seems there is a natural law of the jungle that the big and/or strong bully the weak. If we apply the same rule to our inner selves, the bigger inner selves bully the smaller ones because they can. Sometimes the law of attraction as if the smaller one has a magnet “please bully me”.

    October 10, 2015 at 9:19 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85197
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    17 km?? You’re an athlete!

    October 10, 2015 at 9:16 pm in reply to: Being a Bully to Myself: #85196
    jock
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    Why do you bully yourself? What is the bully’s motivation? Is there a benefit to it? A payoff? What do you get from bullying yourself? If you only suffer because of it, why don’t you… just stop?

    1. I’m not aware I am bullying myself or I have sense that someone has to do it. I can’t go unbullied. That would be chaos.
    2. The bully thinks he is just acting on behalf of the mafia boss, like a hitman.
    3. I get a satisfaction from keeping my other inner selves downtrodden. They (the downtrodden ones stay lovebale because they never get a big ego. And then I mostly identify with these cute, seemingly harmless ones. I think I come from a family culture/Christian culture that encourages harmless, non-assertive, compliant behaviour. I was rewarded for that behaviour when I was a child. My mother once said of me:”Oh Jack, you were such a placid child!” And so it was my job to be placid, one reason being that my next eldest brother was disabled and far from being placid.
    4. I just needed someone’s help to identify them and objectify the situation.

    October 10, 2015 at 2:19 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #85192
    jock
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    Good I hope it works for you too. Anita’s insight is very helpful. I wan going to say, make the most of her, but I don’t want her to overwork either. 🙂

    October 10, 2015 at 2:12 pm in reply to: Castles Made Of Sand #85191
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    We are all forced to play the game leaving little or no time at all for what’s truly important.The devolopment of our own consciousness

    Agree with that, wholeheartedly..

    October 10, 2015 at 2:08 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85190
    jock
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    I started writing them yesterday, and was very surprised that i had 30 already

    Hey Sann, glad you are in on this too. makes me think that Anita and I are not just totally off the planet. 🙂
    But 30 members wow..that’s a lot of writing. It makes me curious about you too. that you must be a complex and interesting person on the whole.
    For me, I want to make this introversion work for me. I want it, to make me more integrated so I can function better in the extroverted “real” world.

    October 10, 2015 at 2:02 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85189
    jock
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    I need my own secretary. Alphabetized Inner Selves and board meeting participants:

    That OCD part of you just cracks me up.. (please don’t take offence)

    October 10, 2015 at 2:01 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85188
    jock
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    Anita

    The second post of today, starting with “This is getting corny.” is Marvin talking

    This blew me away because I pride myself on my self-awareness.. 🙂
    To think that from moment to moment I am not aware of who is thinking, who is talking.
    I mean Tiny Buddha and mindfulness/meditation etcetera, teach us to be aware of what we are thinking but not who
    At the risk of becoming even more crazy ( 🙂 ), should we be aware of which of our inner selves is talking during meditation? mindfulness?

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