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  • October 15, 2015 at 2:47 am in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #85443
    jock
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    I’m confused but I appreciate your honesty Anita. I need to gain some self-respect through consistent paid work. Then I will feel less guilty being on here.

    October 14, 2015 at 3:23 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #85420
    jock
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    sorry that should read FAT,
    purely coincidence that I am a fat guy

    October 14, 2015 at 2:03 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #85416
    jock
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    I got attached too. To your ridiculously relevant replies. And your agonisingly appropriate analyses. As I’m sure a lot of people do here on TB forums.You give this place credibility, for sure and certain. People can count on at least one concerned and heartfelt response here and that is usually from you.
    I wonder how we get attached to people on forums in general. I mean our online persona is not the whole story. I think we get attached to an illusion of someone for sure. My weight issue is not my only shortcoming for instance. I can be downright pessimistic and negative which can really depress those near to me.
    Forum Attachment Therapy (FTA) Dr. Anita, have you heard about this new, earthquakingly,thunderous theory? Anything to add?

    October 14, 2015 at 12:14 pm in reply to: Why bother? #85405
    jock
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    The most important battle to be won is in our mind. Be at peace with yourself and the people you meet each day. personally I don’t think we need to stay in touch with current affairs unless it is really necessary. Just my view.

    October 13, 2015 at 10:44 pm in reply to: Raison d'etre #85390
    jock
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    thank you ronin for sharing your story. So much wisdom, so much pain, yet so much “clarity” as you say. may the rest of your life be filled with happiness and joy…..

    October 13, 2015 at 4:20 pm in reply to: Unsure about everything and scared #85365
    jock
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    Your writing standard suggests you would handle college/university no problem. 26 is not, I repeat, not old. You have plenty of time to turn things around.
    You may have to return to your home country for a while at some stage, in order to get some perspective. (also University costs would be cheaper there, no?)
    I’d say after the Bolivia trip reassess. As long as you have enough money to survive. Finances really do control a lot of our decisions in life.
    I’ve lived overseas for up to 15 years, and you reach a point where you can’t be totally happy anywhere. So don’t expect it. Life is often a compromise and happiness is what you make it. Learn to see the positives in any country you live, would be my advice.

    October 13, 2015 at 2:44 pm in reply to: Learning self love #85362
    jock
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    But are there enough teachers qualified to teach it?

    October 13, 2015 at 1:42 pm in reply to: Learning self love #85361
    jock
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    Self-love should be a compulsory subject at school.

    October 13, 2015 at 3:13 am in reply to: Heartsick and Torn #85343
    jock
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    Previous post was from classic dog lover 🙂

    October 13, 2015 at 1:44 am in reply to: antidepressants and obsessive thoughts #85342
    jock
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    Obsessive thoughts are very common. Lots and I means lots of people suffer from them. You need to get clarity. get distance from your thoughts and your emotions. Get distance from this heartbreaking event. You need to gradually phase this guy from your memory and replace him with more positive experiences. Don’t be in a hurry to get into another relationship. I’d get into things like yoga and meditation, even Buddhism. Study the mind, would be my advice. Think about your values, your integrity. What kind of person do you want to become? What kind of friends do you want to have? Do you value power and money? If not, seek alternative careers/lifestyles.
    Just my take on things. Good luck.

    October 12, 2015 at 11:49 pm in reply to: Heartsick and Torn #85338
    jock
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    I’d say make the dog the priority for the time being. We had a similar problem with our dog but saw a behaviourist and the dog is now almost problem free re biting anyway.
    You will feel better and more comfortable, once that issue is addressed. I’d say you need to be the boss and don’t let other people tell you how to manage your dog. you need to have that level of confidence. We use a lot of treats and positive reinforcement. I tried the tough guy thing and it never worked for me anyway. Honestly, the more time and work you put into your dog, the better its behaviour gets. Firm boundaries work well. But I guess you already know that.
    The boyfriend issue will work itself out in my opinion. If he starts harassing you about the dog, you know he’s not the right person to be with anyway. Sounds like the bite was minimal .

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    October 12, 2015 at 9:13 pm in reply to: Being a Bully to Myself: #85332
    jock
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    I know I will never do myself in because:
    1) I don’t like pain
    2) I don’t like blood
    3) I don’t like running out of breath
    4) I don’t like the ‘no gaurantees’ of life after death, might be worse than now
    5) don’t have a good life insurance policy
    6) I’d die of shame and guilt for leaving a mess for someone else to clean up
    7) Llama J. can’t see the humour in it
    8) what if reincarnation is true and I come back as a llama
    9) I like watching sport and there may be no sport in the next life
    10) No way I’d leave my partner and canine

    October 12, 2015 at 9:00 pm in reply to: Board Meeting of Inner Selves #85331
    jock
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    My self esteem is in no danger of being overly attended to

    🙂 classic!

    October 12, 2015 at 8:59 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #85330
    jock
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    I knew you’d fuss over this. Don’t read too much into it. If anyone should tire it is you Anita. Please take a well-earned break.

    October 12, 2015 at 6:42 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #85324
    jock
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    Anita
    If I suddenly disappear for a few days, don’t be concerned. I think I need a break from here as you certainly do.
    All good things come to an end sadly, but not yet.
    take care
    jack

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