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  • January 10, 2016 at 7:33 pm in reply to: Cleanse #92040
    jock
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    I need some more suggestions for a successful career move. Can you help ?

    Lion taming
    Chimney sweep
    setting up a lemonade stand on your front lawn
    mystery shopper
    wine taster
    riding a taxi bike (passenger sits on the back)

    January 10, 2016 at 7:28 pm in reply to: I don't have much cofidence and I suck at most things I care about #92030
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    anita
    I know you were joking but the fact you are really helping people here with real problems is really admirable. I need to address my lack of income. Have ruled out robbing a bank and partner does not see humour in it either.
    Llama Juanita aka Jack

    January 10, 2016 at 7:08 pm in reply to: I don't have much cofidence and I suck at most things I care about #92025
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    anita
    hi how you doing?
    I managed to stay away from here for about a week which is good willpower I think. Forum addiction is something I need to address for sure and try to get on with my real life in 2016, which at the moment is stalling and got me worried sick as usual about my ability to ever earn an income ever again.
    But I’ll be dropping by now and then.
    And cheers to you for your time and patience on here helping others as usual. Take care! 🙂

    January 10, 2016 at 6:44 pm in reply to: Need coping/distraction ideas from slightly obsessive thoughts #92021
    jock
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    Distraction strategies? Daydream about winning the lottery or Winnie the Pooh story ??
    🙂
    sorry no idea

    January 10, 2016 at 6:41 pm in reply to: Thoughts and Advice from married couples of age 35-45 #92020
    jock
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    well sorry if you need alcohol to relax then you have a problem!

    You’ve just eliminated a lot people right there, male and female.
    Ok, how many times does he do it? Weekly then I agree, it would be disrespectful to wife and kids.
    Once a year? No that is fine in my opinion. Even every 6 months.
    Seems like there are other issues in the relationship besides his drinking/nights out until 3.00am. Better to address the relationship as a whole. Lack of trust perhaps?
    If my wife nagged me too much, I might start doing the same. Except for the cost to body and hip-pocket.
    Junaita aka Jack

    January 10, 2016 at 5:50 pm in reply to: Need coping/distraction ideas from slightly obsessive thoughts #92016
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    OK seems you’ve some awareness about the problem already. If I can offer my own experience here. I used to react to what people said in a suspicious way. Now I don’t think it is healthy. Better to treat people as innocent before being proven guilty, is my current approach .
    Ok so it has become a pattern for you, a habit.
    The next time you are with him, try to watch and listen to yourself. Be mindful. Later on write out what happened. Know that habits can be changed. I surprised myself by quitting smoking. That taught me that anything is possible.
    Misinterpreting can spoil good relationships so I think it is important you address this.

    January 9, 2016 at 4:44 pm in reply to: Am i a bad person #91924
    jock
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    I see.

    January 7, 2016 at 4:55 pm in reply to: Glutton For Punishment #91736
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    J
    Your issues with family and relatives struck a chord with me. My strategy now is to maintain good boundaries and keep a respectful distance. I always check I am not triggering a smart alec response from them. Keep the conversation boring and avoid stating strong opinions. I have a debrief with myself, before seeing them at get togethers. Psych myself up. Keep up my guard. Now some people might say this is not very nice and kind of unfriendly. But other peoples’ behaviour can be very childish. (Ok mine too 🙂 ) Sometimes you have to be the mild-mannered mature one, in order for them to stay on the leash.

    January 4, 2016 at 10:14 am in reply to: More Poems #91304
    jock
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    no need to think the worst Anita 🙂
    I think I already answered your question anyway.

    January 4, 2016 at 2:36 am in reply to: More Poems #91281
    jock
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    hey anita
    ever thought of skipping a few days, a week even? From TB I mean.
    The break might be good for your mental health.

    January 4, 2016 at 2:18 am in reply to: More Poems #91279
    jock
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    Re homosexuality.
    I’m old school and raised Christian. It would be false of me to say how much I love these people, when I have little or no contact with their culture and community. I was brought up in a time when if you acted with fear you were labelled a “homo”. Or likewise if you admitted liking feminine things.
    But I try to stay open-minded even if it doesn’t come naturally. Even I couldn’t understand why they wanted to marry, when there is such a huge divorce rate among heterosexuals. I have nephews and nieces who have been with their partners for 10, 15 years with kids and have not tied the knot yet. As if to say “Marriage? You can have it!”
    We Aussies may seem backward, even primitive to countries who have legalised gay marriage already.

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    January 4, 2016 at 2:06 am in reply to: Constantly irritated, unhappy, and confused. #91277
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    “Hey. I hear a sound. That’s me being mindful. Do I feel good about that? Not really. I just feel kinda off. Well I know I shouldn’t judge how I feel. So why am I? How do I stop judging how I feel? This is all just making me more stressed. I should just breathe and accept these feelings. But that isn’t working. I’m still resisting. Why can’t I move past this?”

    Sounds like you are resisting your resistance. Evaluating your evaluations. Judging your judgements. I do this and I’m sure a lot of people do too. There is no such thing as a perfect meditation session. Learn to love and accept your imperfect meditation sessions. Just as you learn to love and accept yourself.I think the pay off, the reward for trying, just hanging in there, is not noticeable for a while, a long while. Better not to have expectations. We are not aiming for perfection. We are aiming for acceptance of self and the present moment.

    January 1, 2016 at 8:52 pm in reply to: More Poems #91158
    jock
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    I sometimes think gay people have a 6th sense
    an extra eye, a more insightful view
    of life and the world

    January 1, 2016 at 7:16 pm in reply to: More Poems #91155
    jock
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    Thanks heaven for that!

    January 1, 2016 at 7:11 pm in reply to: More Poems #91153
    jock
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    Anita
    Do you think I can become a professional sit-down comedian?

    All the best this year,2016, Anita

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