You seem to have insight and answers to your own issues so there’s no need for me to offer any suggestions. I am similar in that I like to think I am the expert on myself. For both of us then, we need to emphasise the positive for the past and present. Can you see anything good happening to you at present? Today for instance, I took my dog for a walk this morning, and he was so appreciative, he hasn’t stopped smiling at me since then. I am grateful for this at least. But I can easily slip into negativity if I dwell on silly little melodramas that occurred in the past. (I don’t mean your past events were melodramas, just mine 🙂 )

ha my spelling mistake this time but a funny one “power” instead of “powder”. Maybe “power” is a Freudian slip. I think on any reasonable forum, Pomp would be suspended for that “guard dog” comment though.
You can’t expect me to say “you’re sorry, that’s Ok, move on”, as if it was nothing. So every time I agree with Anita, that label can be used against me. I’m entitled to feel humiliated and this is by far the worst “attack” on anyone in this thread. Pomp is accustomed to these battles. She’s used to stooping low, hitting below the belt. I try to maintain some dignity, some shred of self-respect in these confrontations. I can’t help thinking that Pomp reminds me of some unsophisticated people I’ve had to deal with in the past. So there’s my own example of transference I admit. I put Pomp in the category “too hard basket”. Emotional, unpredictable, hysterical, given to mood swings, dangerous. There’s probably a diagnosis for it. Why should I bother trying to help or understand such people? It’s not worth the effort. They’re too needy. Anita is more skilled and more compassionate in this regard. it proves to me I could never be a counsellor because I don’t have such broad empathy.

• This reply was modified 9 years ago by jock.

He was a witty guy Churchill, that’s for sure.

Were you drunk this time? You should be careful. It triggers some people on here.

Anita
You can’t beat her
She’s always here
to send good cheer
you want empathy?
then you’ll get empathy
you want sympathy?
then you’ll get sympathy
she can analyse
those inner selves
those naughty elves

she is so feisty
and not so fancy
she is direct
and usually correct
I could say god bless her
but she don’t believe

Woolly Bully
Don’t know you fully
But I’m guessin’
your mind is stressin’
Your inner critic
is playin’ havoc
and you need some outlet
and I’m your outlet
but stop the A-buse
’cause I don’t D-eserve it

Affirmation Interlude ” Noone can make me feel less about myself”

My mistake
Woolly Bully
You don’t exist.

Why did the lama cross the road?
Because he could see enlightenment on the other side.

because she’s in lala land

reminds me of my dog sometimes.
sorry if that wasn’t relevant