Hi wanting to be anonymous,

I was seeing a psychiatrist a few years back but I decided to stop because I realized it didn’t help me as much as I thought it would be. So what I have discovered and wrote on my blog were the followings:

– Find something that you love to do alone or group (mine was team sports)

– Meditate (I do it 10 mins a day before or after bed because it calms your mind to think better)

– Read (I would recommend “The Art of Happiness” by Dalai Lama)

– Exercise (I do it when I don’t feel like doing it:) hope that makes sense, it is very uplifting and you will feel amazing after physically and emotionally)

-Try new things every weekend, whether is cooking or explore a new neighborhood

-Travel more (plan a getaway weekend with your girls or partner)

Hope it helps.

Cheers.

I know it is easy said then done but if you keep focusing on “the what if” in every start of your sentences you will never able to overcome any of your negative thoughts and increase your unhappiness in life. You deserve to be happy like and loved, so do what makes you happy and live in the present moment that is all you can do. Worrying is the worse disease we can ever take on in life, so let go and move forward.

I believe that if you are happy, everything else is figureoutable:) So love yourself enough to give yourself a chance to be happy!

Hi Kevin,

I haven’t read the material that you have recommended but what I’ve read that introduced me to the 80/20 which I start to apply since is Tim Ferris “4 Hours Work Week” and also from my mentors at work who have achieve top levels and I hope to follow their successes in the near future.

What tricky about this rule is you have to be able to identify the 20% that will yield the 80% result that you would like to see. So knowing your strength is one but also understanding all the project parts that contribute to that 80/20 to me was challenging at first but now I use this rule religiously at work and home. It’s a time saver for me to concentrate on other tasks at hands that I usually make up excuses of not completing them.

Cheers.

Hi P:)

I wouldn’t say I went through something similar but I was once felt the same as you right now.

You mentioned that it has been 8 years that you’ve been together and yet you changed for the better and he is still in one spot? Talking from past experience, it is time for you to write down the pros/cons of staying in this relationship. It was the toughest thing I’ve done but it was the best thing I did or else I wouldn’t be where I am now professionally and personally.

If you feel unhappy most of the time because he doesn’t change, it will turn into resentment which you don’t want. You need to evaluate what you want in life and put yourself first.

Good luck.