Hi Anita,

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post.

Well, I always thought I had an amazing relationship with his entire family. I loved them dearly and they came across very loving towards me also. Until we were faced with an unforeseen life changing situation (which I don’t really want to discuss in more depth) and unfortunately we found ourselves on the other ends of the spectrum in regards to the resolve.. This was a deeply hurtful and personal situation to me. He was still the loving and caring man he used to be at the beginning.. until his family got involved and not only completely turned against me but also gave me weeks of emotional abuse, txts, showed up at my home etc. He allowed all of that to happen whilst slowly withdrawing himself from me..

See, with his family if you’re not with them you must be against them. And his mother is very controlling of him, his siblings (they’re all grown ups!) and many other members of the family. When everything started falling apart his mother text me to let me know that he had a choice to make. Me or them. So I suppose he made a choice..

I feel that I have been lied to throughout our relationship and made to believe he was something that he is not. Because within moments of his mother giving him that ultimatum he withdrew from me completely, that was the choice he made. He was no longer the caring, compassionate man who was going to stick by me and hold my hand throughout the traumatic experience which I had to endure BECAUSE of him and his family..

Yet I still can’t help but love him. Miss him. It almost feels like his choice was made for him and he is so afraid of loosing his family he would rather loose me.

If im honest, it is probably for the best that things didn’t work out because having a mother in law who is so utterly vile would’ve been a nightmare. Nonetheless, I realise my relationship was with him and not her and so it hurts all the same. I genuinely thought I was going to marry this man..