Hi again,

I was on the phone with my boyfriend this morning and Steve has come back to the gym. My boyfriend is not initiating conversation with him, but after their workout session, my boyfriend sits and socialises with a group of people from the class afterwards. Steve is usually in this circle.

He does not talk to Steve, but sometimes Steve may ask him questions. My boyfriend is very dry in his responses. We discussed that even if this were to happen, my boyfriend would not talk to him at the gym. My boyfriend is the type of person who respects other people’s feelings, though. So he doesn’t want to raise any flags with others at the gym by not replying to him (which are minimal). It’s mostly a group conversation.

He has cut Steve off everywhere else though (outside the gym, social media, etc.) so the only way they interact directly is maybe for about a few minutes a day after the session.

Am I asking for too much if I ask my boyfriend to completely cut all form of conversation with him? All form of interaction? That is, to not even answer some questions and just ignore his presence?

I just want him completely gone because it triggers me.

Sincerely,

kiwiboy0897

Thanks Anita,

One thing that really bothers me is that people at the gym would ask if they were together. He would always deny it though. He said it’s because they basically did everything there together (this was before they confessed how they felt). It just bothers me and I don’t know how to cope with that. Sometimes my imagination runs wild and wonders what made people think that, as in how was my boyfriend acting? Do you get what I mean?

Sincerely,

kiwiboy0897

Hi anita,

I think there was some confusion. My boyfriend told Steve that he had an attraction to him.