We had a very deep connection where we were best friends, we had lots of mutual friends and were accepted into each other’s families. We built a whole life together. However, the downsides of the relationship were that when we disagreed or had conflict, it could escalate to nastiness and bitterness. He would taunt me sometimes or refuse to apologise, or listen to me. I would also give the silent treatment and lose my temper. We brought out the worst in each other at times. He also wanted things done very much his way and it didn’t feel like we were a team. I realise now, looking back, that we had some unhealthy dynamics but I am still really struggling to move on, let go, and stop thinking of him. It’s been a year and I don’t know if it’s normal to still be feeling this way, and whether I will always feel this way. Perhaps it was a mistake to leave him – because surely I would feel happy and content by now if it was the right thing to do?